Kat's Corner

What Can Tarot Do For You?

Tarot cards use archetypal images to guide your intuition. They help you tap into your natural psychic ability. Anyone can get a book with definitions of each card and do a reading. It will probably be jumbled and confusing. However there are some people who have the gift to thread those individual meanings into the story of a life.

The future is always in motion. What will be right now may have changed by the time I type the next sentence. These changes are effected by what you and other people do each second. It’s affected by words, actions, and thoughts.  I feel the Tarot is an essential decision making tool because not only can it tell you what will happen, but how you can change that if you choose.

For example;

Mary is dating Leo.  She suspects he is cheating on her.  She consults the cards and is told that he will leave her for another woman. The future shows heartbreak and disappointment.  Mary inquires how she can avoid this. She is told to leave him and she will find a new love within 6 weeks. Mary has avoided the her pending heartache and found a new love that she may have missed if she was still involved with Leo.

Or

Phil is going to start a new business with Greg. He asks the cards if this will be a successful venture. His answer reflects financial success and career progression.  He is glad to hear that so he knows to just keep doing what he doing.

Using the Tarot helps you control your life and keep on the correct path.  It can help you with trivial decisions as well as major life changes. It can help you center spiritually by looking into dreams, past lives, and divine will.

Bad Love IV

Jason contacted Greta on My Space. She was thrilled to hear from him but really nervous to talk to him. So she made me call him first. He said he had gotten off drugs and drinking and been working in Hawaii. He said he had kept the same job for a couple of years. He said he had stopped sleeping around. He said he was in church and had made a great effort to fix all his negative behaviors. He said he had tried to become the man he needed to be for Greta. He seemed sincere and said all the right things. I passed this information along and she called him.

He informed her that he since he found her again he’d move to where she was and show her how much he’d changed. She told him she wasn’t just going to take him back as she always had. She told him he’d have to prove himself. He said he’d wait as long as it took for her to see that he loved her and would do anything to keep them together.

I was impressed. It takes a powerful emotion to get you to leave the nice life you’ve made in HAWAII to come back to some hick town to a girl who tells you flat out she doesn’t want to date you. He didn’t care about what he was leaving behind if he’d be near her and show her that he had changed. He said his whole life would be devoted to getting her back no matter how long it took.

Well it turns out that he wasn’t motivated by strong emotion. He’s just crazy and a liar. Once he got back it took about two weeks for him to show his old self was still there. He was drinking and drugging, sleeping around, and quitting every job he got.  

She had wised up since the last time and told him she’d never be with him again. It didn’t matter if she believed he was her soul mate. She had finally learned enough self respect to not allow herself to go into a bad situation. True love or not, he was bad for her.

He obviously is not advanced enough on his path to care about karma or doing the right thing. He has issues and doesn’t try to correct them. His desires are all physical. Even though he claims to love her deeply he is not willing to do the work to become a suitable partner to anyone. Maybe through his mistake in this life he will learn something and be more advanced in his next incarnation. There is even a slim chance he may change his ways in this life. Until he does, she has to move on and have the best life she can without him. Being his soul mate does not doom her to a life of misery and mistreatment.  I am sure she will feel some part of her is always missing but in the big picture she can learn more and be happier on her own.

So even though people say that true love can conquer anything I think both people have to be fighting for the same thing. You shouldn’t stay in a bad situation just because the other person is your soul mate. Take what lesson you can from that experience and get away. Hopefully they will learn something themselves and a change can occur before the next lifetime together.

Bad Love III

By chance one day I ran into Jason. He had just arrived back in town. He was eager to find Greta and reunite. Greta was involved in a serious relationship but they had problems. I was sure, after so many years of agonizing over Jason, she would be ecstatic to see him. It was as if the Universe was offering her the second (make that third) chance she had been praying for.

Jason went to see her and declared his love and intentions to make it work this time. He said he had only gone because she had made it clear she wanted him to go. She had not asked him to stay nor was she willing to go with him. It seemed that both wanted the other to fight to keep them, but neither had.

Surprisingly, Greta rejected Jason. She claimed her feelings for him had changed. She told him repeatedly that they would never be together again. Jason took this to be the truth and left town again.

After he was gone and she and her new love had finally broken up, she admitted that she had not told the truth. She had wanted to be with him but she once again was testing him to see how important the relationship was to him. She expected he would sit around twiddling his thumbs until she decided to take him back. He did not. She was once again plunged into despair and regret.

It was pretty clear to me that this was a karmic situation. When the same thing keeps happening again and again with the same result you have to figure out what you supposed to be learning and then correct it. Someone was going to have to break that circle. Jason does not have the spiritual insight that she does (even though she chooses to ignore it most times). So it’s obvious she would have to be the one. I advised her if she ever got the chance again she’d have to be honest about her feelings, quit playing games and testing him, and fight to resolve their issues.

Jason was gone for 5 years. Then once again the Universe gave her the opportunity she had been praying for.

To be continued …

Bad Love II

I think it may be helpful, if I tell the whole story of Greta and Jason. The names have been changed to protect the innocent and the not so innocent, I knew Greta very well so I know her side of the story. I have heard his side but he is a proven liar, so I take it with a grain of salt. I do not presume to know his deep spiritual desires or intentions. However, it is obvious from talking to and observing him, that spiritual growth is not a top priority.

Greta and Jason we engaged about 15 years ago. The relationship was rocky. He was using many drugs and cheating. Greta was the kind of girl who would stay with anyone just to get the validation of having a mate. Eventually he just disappeared. She had no idea if he was dead or alive. After a few years, she moved on and married someone else. That train wreck is a story for another day.  

Throughout her marriage and after her divorce Greta continued to carry a torch for Jason. Six years after he left, he resurfaced. He said he had come back because through all the years he had never stopped loving her. He said he had changed and blah, blah, blah. She took him back of course. Soon after his return, his “ex-wife” showed up and informed everyone that he had two children and she wanted him back. He promptly sent her back to Ohio because he wanted to be with Greta. As the weeks went by he started feeling guilty about leaving his kids. He asked Greta to move to Ohio with him so he could be near them. Greta had some abandonment issues and rather than just agree to go as she wanted to do, she told him no to go alone. She wanted him to beg her to go or say he would not go without her to prove his love but he did not get that. He thought she just did not want to be with him and so he left. Once he was gone, she had no way to contact him. So once again, Jason was lost.

She agonized over this for years. The “Jason Situation” was the worst tragedy or her life. She felt he was her one true love and she would never love anyone as much. She had messed up her chances.

The story continues three years later ….

Stay Tuned

Bad Love

My best friend has found her soul mate. This would normally be a very happy thing, but he is such a toxic mess, they cannot be together.  This made me wonder. If you KNOW someone is your soul mate, should you try to make it work, no matter what?

After careful consideration, I have decided, that you ought not to do anything that is detrimental to your spiritual growth and well-being. I think a toxic love affair is more damaging than most situations. You put so much of yourself into it. Everything in your life takes a backseat to the person you love. When that relationship is unhealthy, it infects your entire life. It does not matter if this person is your other half. They will still drag you down.

I believe the purpose of our existence in THIS world is to learn the karmic lessons we need to achieve a higher state of being. Although we have a soul mate, we learn at different paces and sometimes on different paths. Ultimately, we want to be at the same place at the same time and reunite in perfect harmony. This can take a very long time and many lifetimes. Some lives we share and learn from each other. Sometimes it is by being together and others from not being together.

For example, in my friend’s case, she and he would be together and break up. He would always disappear and no one knew how to find him. Each time, after several years, she would run into him again. The last time, she knew she had made a mistake and wished desperately to find him and try again. When she had finally given up, he found her on My Space and contacted her He had moved to Hawaii and upon finding her he moved to Tennessee to peruse her.

To be continued ......

Money Stress

I am constantly amazed by how differently things turn out if you just stop worrying and being negative. I had some financial issues in the past few days that would normally stress me out a lot. Usually I try to anticipate every possible   "what if" and make a plan just in case each one happens. This takes up allot of time and energy. You can't think of everything that may happen and the one you didn't think of is usually the one you get anyway. This time, instead of fretting and freaking out, I did all that I could do and then let it go. I didn't spend any extra time worrying about where I could get more money or how to juggle the bills. I just used what I had in the wisest way and had faith the rest would work out. And it did. 

There was always the chance it wouldn't work out, but once I realized that it didn't matter if something got turned off or I had to eat noodles all week, I stopped worrying. That peace of mind allowed me to be guided to an opportunity that helped resolve the problem. Sometimes no matter how resourceful and brilliant you are, there is something outside of your brain that has a better answer. You have to quiet you mind to hear it.

I don't consider Dr Phil a great philosopher, but I heard him say something the other day that really struck me. He said money is the easiest replicable commodity. That is so true, yet it's the thing we worry about most.  Whatever money you lose you can just go out and make more. Whatever stuff you lose you can get again. 

Most major conflicts I've had with my loved ones have been over money. That's so sad because you can't buy that time back or take back the ugly things you said. No amount of money you have can fix those emotional scars.

It's hard not to worry about money (especially when the wolf is at the door), but isn't it better to be happy and poor than to be stressed out and still poor. That stress doesn't get you anything good. I don't think anyone has solved a money problem because they worried about it than someone else had.  Positivism at least lets you be open to a new idea.

The Bike Ride

I have gone through a lot of transformations of faith in the last 10 years. I have come to realize I still believe the same things but have different words to describe them.

I was raised as a Southern Baptist. I was never "on fire for God" as the saying goes. I went because my parents made me. I didn't really think about God much. I believed He was real. I had some questions that no one could answer and some ideas that conflicted with traditional Christianity but I was taught that since I had been baptized and was a "good" person, I was saved. 

Once I moved out on my own, I stopped attending church each week but I still prayed and believed God would take of me as long as I sought His will for my life.  This worked for me until life got really hard and I kept seeking God's will and begging for help and no help came. I felt abandoned and disillusioned.

I realize that suffering is part of Christianity, but that has been a part I could never reconcile. It doesn't make sense to me to live A lifetime of misery for some promised reward in the afterlife. Maybe it's because I have always believed in reincarnation. Sometimes you hear an idea and it strikes a cord of truth in you.

I had been taught God was kind and loving. I was taught if you seek Him, He will comfort you. I was seeking as hard as I could and found silence. So I was left with two options - what I had been taught was wrong or I was too terrible to deserve God's help. I guess I had too much self worth to believe I was too "bad" to love. So obviously, God was not the loving parent in the sky as I had been told.

I still believed in a higher power but I wasn't sure of It's nature or It's relevence to me.

Eventually, this led me to a place where I believed I was in complete control of my world. If something good happened I did it. If something bad happened I did it. I found could do magic and I could see the results of it. I believed something greater had created me and given me all the power I needed to take care of myself. It was still a parent in the sky but one who had put me out to fend for myself.

Any extreme is bad, whether it's complete dependence on a higher power to care for you or complete arrogant confidence. to care for yourself. Eventually your going to crash. You'll either end up feeling completely let down and forsaken or the pressure of controlling every little thing will break you. I been at both ends now.

I think I have acheived a happy medium now. I know I have all the strength and abilities I need to create any future I choose but, I know when it's too hard to go on there will be someone I can turn to for strength.

It's like when you parent teaches you to ride the bike. They hold on for a while. Then when they see you can do it alone they let go. But they don't just leave they stand back and watch. If you should fall off they are there to bandage the knee and hold you till you can get back on.

Now that I have explained how I think the higher power works in our lives, I want to elaborate on the nature of what I think it is. But that will have to wait til the next post.

In the meantime, if you feel wobbly on that bike just remember to look back and someone really is the watching just in case.