Blessings of Enlightenment

What have you sacrificed for Security?

Close your eyes and imagine a courtyard with twenty foot high stone walls surrounding it.  Imagine you have lived within this courtyard for all of your life.  You have never ventured out for the walls have no doors.  You could only see the sky above you and what you have inside your courtyard.

You would probably be accustomed to the rhythmic transits of the sun, moon and stars; occasionally rain and snow; visitations from birds and leaves carried by the winds.  If you are asked what your opinion is of life you would probably not have much to say as you have not been exposed and have very little to really talk about.

You are however, very safe and secure from major crime and things that can harm you.  You may lament that things are pretty boring because there is not much to be passionate or caring about in your existence behind the walls.

You probably would tell me that you are anguishing over the loneliness and lack of change in your world and you longed for companionship.

In a stone-walled courtyard, none of the things you relate would be false; it would be a reality dictated by the circumstances of your enclosure. It wouldn’t be fair to say that your reality is distorted. It's just limited. This limited, courtyard view is exactly what control does to your life. It narrows your field of view and leaves you convinced that the world is a place with few choices, a place where you're a prisoner--confined and helpless. There's a whole world of choice just beyond your courtyard of reflexive, insecure thinking.

However, if you decide to take a few chances, give up control and leave your prison of security you will never be tempted to return.

Controlled living (worrying, ruminating, perfectionism, doubting and distrusting, etc) will never let you grow or become all that you can be.

Security is highly over rated I believe for without taking risks you will stay within your walled garden and never grow beyond the walls. Sprout wings and fly over the walls into the unknown!  Taste the thrill of making mistakes, winning the game, losing sight of fear and soaring to new heights on the thermals of life. 

Blessings to you this lovely spring day.  I wish you a joyous journey of discovery.

 For dropping by and sharing my blog with me!

Rosie

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Postcard from the Fringe!

                         

Good Evening from the rainy, drizzly mountains!  Spring has brought rain, thunder and lightning storms with power outages everywhere!  Just a few weeks ago I was heralding the beginning of spring and now fickle hearted as I know myself to be,  I am wondering if I was nuts!  Yesterday we had a power outage and lightning that made your hair stand on end.  Thankfully no tornadoes however.  When the power is off and I am disconnected from the computer I find I feel deprived anymore. I am thinking how very spoiled I am with the technology we have. 

There is a great energy shift in the world and I believe we are all experiencing it to some degree.  I have heard from clients all over the globe about how tense they are feeling and how the mood across the world has changed.  Many people are feeling the tension even in their own small communities like ours.  We are a rural community with few changes but lately there is a lot of violence being reported even in our small area.

I had a good laugh today when a friend and partner of mine who resides in Bermuda called me and told me she was involved in a little confrontation today with a street person.  I was so shocked by her telling me that while driving through some construction she heard the message that she was to roll up her windows in the car and lock her door.  She has a habit of leaving her purse on the passenger seat and open so she can rummage in it for her cell phone and blackberry while she is driving. 

Today while she was waiting in the traffic line for construction a vagrant appeared at the side of her car and tried to open her passenger side door and begin banging on her car door with an umbrella.  She said that made her so mad that she pulled off the road, locked up her car and chased the man down the street, kicking him in the pants as he was running.  Another man on a small bike helped her in the pursuit.  She finally came to her senses and stopped her pursuit.  Mind you she is a little woman, and weighs about 100 pounds soaking wet.  She could not believe what had come over her.  She only knew that she was so tired of being afraid she just snapped!

I don't advocate anyone taking this type of measure but I had to laugh at her telling me about it for she is the most "non violent" person I know and it was so out of character for her to do such a thing. People are so tired of being a victim and being afraid they are going to extreme measures to counteract their emotions.

It is well to remember that although our economy is changing, and there are many things that causing this, overall everything is as it should be.  We are in a cycle of cleansing and repair across the world and although we may lament the violent earth changes the outcome is going to be a new earth and a new beginning I believe. 

We all are feeling the tension of the ascension process and how we deal with it will be up to each individual.  Myself I am a person when confronted with major changes, start analyzing right away what I am supposed to be learning from it. I know that when I hide away that change is hard and when I get out and participate in the world change comes like a natural river that flows over me. Take the time to look at where you are and then decide how you are going to maintain peace in the land that is so chaotic right now.

We grow when we experience change.  When we deny change and when we run away from it then we stagnate.

I know the world economy has us all worrying but I feel we are great spirits and will join together when the time comes to do so and we will create a better world to live in.  Even the oil crisis may finally propel us into using alternative energy which we should have been doing many years ago.  The technology has been there waiting to be used and I believe now is the time.

So if you are feeling the tension I recommend you get some sea salt and take frequent cleansing baths, learn to meditate and center your being, and take a martial arts class for you may need to learn some self defense moves to protect yourself in the future! I do not however advocate taking matters into your own hands like a vigilante either for that can cause you great harm both physically and spiritually. 

We all need to breathe in deeply and try to understand that God is still in charge and we will come out of this shift better human beings and greater spiritual beings if we learn to accept what is occurring and endure the best we can.  Find some creative ways to help one another when crisis hits your communities.  Learn to be a better steward of the land for she will give back to us if we are wise when we use Mother Nature and above all know that we chose to be here to see and be a participant in this change.

The bottom line is we are all exactly where we are supposed to be during this time of change and we must make the best of it.  Be the creators of the solutions that will be needed for us all to move forward.  Don't just hide in fear and do nothing but get out there and get involved in saving the planet and our home. 

Wishing you all calm and peace within your hearts this day.

 

Rosie

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The "Shift"

                                   

Today I spent the morning watching the horrendous news about the earthquake in China and I knew that this was only the beginning.  For quite some time there has been an increase in the severity of storms around the world.  Survivors began cleaning up from a deadly blast of storms and tornados that killed 22 people in three central U.S. states over the weekend. Officials said this year is the country's deadliest for tornado-related deaths in a decade.

Several tornados combined to kill 22 people in Oklahoma, Missouri and Georgia over the weekend, raising the nation's 2008 total to about 100, the worst toll in a decade.

This year is on pace to see the most deaths since 130 people were killed in 1998, the eighth highest total since 1950, according to the National Weather Service. The record is 519 tornado-related deaths in 1953.

I believe we are preparing for a major shift in consciousness and probably an end to many aspects of life as we know it. Not everyone is being prepared, but spiritually-oriented people seem to be sensitive to the idea that something is coming.

How many of you feel something is happening?  Do you sense a “shift” is coming and that life is speeding up?

Actually it’s more than a shift in consciousness. It may even be a reworking of our DNA. Scientific theory supports the idea that earth’s magnetic field and maybe even the Schumann Resonance can affect our DNA through “electrical inductance” (the name given when two magnetic fields interact creating a shift in attributes).

The Schumann Resonance is the heartbeat of the earth itself. The earth behaves like an enormous electrical circuit and for thousands of years it has been stable at 7.8 cycles-per-second. Because it was thought to be constant, global military communications were developed on this frequency. But since 1980 this resonance has been changing and it’s now over 12 cycles-per-second. No one knows why. And it can only go to 13. One theory says that this means the equivalent of 16 hours per day instead of the old 24 hours per day. In other words, our watches still say 24, but in actuality, we may be living 16-hour days right now. No wonder it feels like time is speeding up.

There are many theories about what is happening. One says that everything will continue to pulse faster, until Dec. 21, 2012 (Zero Point). At that time, the pulse will have stabilized and we will remain switched into a higher frequency all the time. We’ll be ON all the time. We’ll have transcended levels of consciousness. We may even transcend from a 3rd-dimensional reality to a 4th-dimensional reality.

“Shift thinking” says the vibrational rate of our planet is accelerating to the point of activating metaphysically-oriented people. By activating, I mean their thinking is already more in tune with higher vibration, so they are experiencing and responding to this planetary increase more than others. They are being “shifted” or “called” to do more and be more ... and to walk away from negativity. 

Their vibratory essence will no longer be capable of tolerating negativity. So they will respond to new callings -- new careers that will be of more service to the planet. In relationships, if the couple is not growing together, or if one partner is holding the other back, the union may be dissolved in favor of “spiritual partnerships” with mates of matching vibrational rates.

Gary Zukav talks about spiritual partnerships in his book “Soul Stories.” The new males and females have transcended cliché gender roles and approach life with confidence and expanded viewpoints. They follow their hearts on a spiritual journey. Authentic power is their destination.

These new males and females have new ways of relating. They do not desire to control others. They seek to establish harmony, co-operation, sharing, and reverence for a Life created together. They’re partners in spiritual growth. Love and trust, not marriage vows keep them together. They’re best friends who enjoy each other. And they’re equals.

“That is what a spiritual partnership is -- a partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth,” says Zukav. “We are all beginning to want spiritual partners, and to create spiritual partnerships. Shallow talk isn’t enough anymore. Making money, raising children, and buying houses aren’t enough. Only spiritual growth satisfies.”

Imagine the uplifting vibrational power of millions of people thinking like this. There are maybe 100 million New Agers around the world, and if they are shifted to a higher level, they are going to carry millions of others along with them.  The response that Oprah Winfrey had to her series with Eckhart Tolle shows that the world is transcending.  A few years ago it would have been suicide to present this type of program for it would not have been so readily accepted.

An environment of negativity pulls people down. But within an environment of positive higher vibration, people are pulled up, closer to the creator.

Some believe this shifting is in preparation for a transition in 2012. Others feel this is a natural evolutionary process that will herald the demise of fear-based religion and the rise of love-based spirituality.

I know that great changes are coming in our environment and I just don’t think we are prepared nor can we be.  I think the smartest thing would be to select an area to relocate where you are not too close to the ocean front.  I have had many visions of land sinking in Florida and along the coast of California.  I know with the gasoline prices driving our economy that we are going to be hard pressed to withstand the rise in food costs.  I remembered my Mother speaking to us of the “victory gardens” that were grown during World War II and how everyone grew their own vegetables and we have continued to do that every since.  I think that might be a definite possibility and we may start seeing more and more starting urban gardens to feed the communities where they reside. 

With enlightened spirits to guide us the “shift” will bring a new beginning and a new evolution of man.

Blessings of joy to everyone this day

Rosie

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Creating Karma

              

To be self-actualized is to accept that what is, IS, and to accept others without judgment, blame, expectations, or trying to control.

Resisting what IS is futile. What is, is unalterable -- something that cannot be changed.

Buddha said, “It is your resistance to what IS that causes your suffering.”

What you deny to others will be denied to you, for the plain reason that you are always legislating for yourself, all your words and actions define the world YOU want to live in. One of the necessary laws for our relations as equal beings is this: What you say goes -- but only for you and those who agree with you.

If you say a man should not receive help undeservedly, it may not affect his life much, but it will hold true for you and you will not get undeserved help.

If you say other people’s sexual pleasures are vulgar, it won’t change their experiences, but your pleasures will become vulgar.

It is precisely your unlimited power to control your experience that hangs you up. How much compassion and forgiveness do you want for yourself? Calculate how much you need and then give it to others. Go to the extreme and forgive all beings for their karmic debts to you. Grant to others the freedom, the love, the consciousness that you want for yourself.”

What you deny to others will be denied to you, is simply one of the laws of karma. Everything you think, say and do creates or resolves karma. And that includes the motive, intent and desire behind everything you think, say and do. Simplified, when you act with intention you create karma.

Learning to not judge or to not discriminate is something we all should ascribe to attain.  It is a process like all life lessons and one we all must learn to master on our life journey.  What you observe in others may be an indication of what you are needing to observe in yourself for we are mirrors and we reflect energy outward and inward.  Look closely at your anger and resentment for it may be that what you are angry about has more to do with you than with others. 

If another does not agree with you then that is what IS and you do not need to expend useless energy forcing them to agree with you.  You may waste precious moments getting others to agree with you and for what purpose?  To validate that you are right and they were wrong?  This is a useless endeavor and all it does is cause frustration.  You cannot think another's thoughts, formulate or plan for them.  If they want to accept who you are and what you espouse then so be it and if not do not waste time trying to convince them they are wrong.  In the end they may change their minds temporarily but if your ideas do not resonate with their intentions they will not change their ideals to suit you. 

Walk your talk but do not expect others to follow closely behind you because you tell them to do so.  They have their life lessons to learn, their own truth and you should honor that within.

Wishing you joy in the day and peace in your heart.


Rosie

Karma of the Brain: Why Good Things Happen to Good People

                                  

Karma of the Brain: Why Good Things Happen to Good People

Yes, helping others makes us feel warm and fuzzy, but new research suggests that doing good deeds can actually help people live longer, healthier lives. Siri Agrell explains why positive action may be better than popping pills.

By Siri Agrell
Source: The Globe and Mail

What if your doctor told you to take two steps toward being a better person and call him in the morning?

Patients at a California health maintenance organization are being prescribed generous behavior as part of a program called Rx: Volunteer, one of various new research projects described by Stephen Post in his book Why Good Things Happen To Good People, out next week. Dr. Post chronicles the link between doing good and living a longer, healthier life.

"The science shows that we're hardwired to be giving," he says. "We're talking here about a one-a-day vitamin for the soul."

A growing number of researchers are supporting his claim with studies that show how the human body benefits from everything from gratitude to generosity.

Dr. Post, the president of Case Western Reserve University's Institute for Research on Unlimited Love, believes in the scientific equivalent to The Secret, the self-help phenomenon that preaches positivity as a means to personal reward.

No, being a good person won't necessarily get you a new car or help you lose 10 pounds, Dr. Post says, but there is a karma of the brain, where the body physically rewards acts of kindness and forgiveness.

"The remarkable bottom line of the science of love is that giving protects overall health twice as much as Aspirin protects against heart disease," he says.

For example, psychologist Robert Emmons studied organ-transplant recipients and found that the more gratitude they felt, the faster they recovered.

A 2001 study of trauma survivors by psychologist Russell Kolts found that gratitude was associated with lower symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder.

And a Wellesley College study that has tracked 200 people since the 1920s, interviewing them for five hours every decade, found that people who were charitable in high school had better physical and mental health in late adulthood.

"The connection for mental health is particularly strong, but the physical health results are also highly significant," psychologist Paul Wink notes.

Helping other people can aid in personal relaxation and stress as well.

Researchers at the University of Michigan found that people who offered social support to others in a financial crisis saw a marked reduction in their own anxiety about money.

The movement toward studying human goodness has even spawned its own diagnostic manual, Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification.

It was written to contrast the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, which doctors use to classify human behavior by pathology.

Dr. Post, whose institute offers funding to many of these studies, believes that people who want to prolong their lives should work on their attitude, the same way they would change their diet or exercise routines.

And he thinks the culture is ready for a shift toward the positive.

He was encouraged by the behavior of some young people in the aftermath of last month's mass shooting at Virginia Tech, who reached out to one another online and promised to be kinder to strangers.

"The truth is ours we have a duty to be true to ourselves. Smile at people you usually never even looked at talk to people u hated," Quebec student Pierre-Olivier Laforce wrote in a Facebook post quoted in The New York Times.

And also last month Ryan Fitzgerald, an unemployed 20-year-old from Boston, received more than 5,000 calls after posting his phone number on YouTube for strangers who needed to talk.

Mr. Fitzgerald said he was inspired by Juan Mann, an Australian whose efforts to hug strangers landed him as a guest on Oprah Winfrey's couch.

And the impulse to take a higher road is not just infecting idealistic young people.

Toronto consultant Peggie Pelosi decided she needed to rethink her priorities while working as a vice-president at a health sciences company. After establishing a charitable partnership for her employees, she watched their productivity soar. She now helps companies form philanthropic partnerships and has written a book, Corporate Karma: How Business Can Move Forward By Giving Back.

"I think there's a lack of opportunity for people to find and express compassion," she says of her baby-boomer generation. "We've gotten to the point in our lives where we would like to have some meaning."

    
Wishing everyone a safe week from storms and trauma.  Give thanks and reach out to others and we will all heal in a miraculous way!


Rosie

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Happy Mother's Day!

I just wanted to extend a Happy Mother's Day greeting for all the Mothers on Keen and especially to all our wonderful clients out there in the Universe.  Today let us give thanks to all the Mothers that are here or in spirit for without them it would be a pretty empty world.  I received the following poem by email and I must confess there was no indication who the author is so I apologize for not being able to give proper credit.  The poem just touched my heart and made me smile and I hope that it will do the same for you.

Does someone you know suffer from PTSD?

                        

I felt the necessity to address a disorder that I have seen a lot in my practice and has been in the national news quite a bit lately. I have been involved with bringing awareness of this illness to some members of the Women’s Shelter in particular for this disorder is prevalent among battered women.   It is a devastating illness and can be life threatening at times.  Because of so many military personnel returning home from the war there has been a lot of talk about this disorder in the news.  What is a lesser known fact is that millions of women who are not in the military and some men suffer from this in the world because of the trauma’s that occur in their lives at home.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) develops after a terrifying ordeal that usually involves physical harm or the threat of physical harm. The person who develops PTSD may have been the one who was harmed or observes the harm being done to another, the harm may have happened to a loved one, or the person may have witnessed a harmful event that happened to loved ones or strangers.

PTSD was first brought to public attention in relation to war veterans, but it can result from a variety of traumatic incidents, such as mugging, rape, torture, being kidnapped or held captive, child abuse, car accidents, train wrecks, plane crashes, bombings, natural disasters such as floods or earthquakes and loss of loved ones in a tragedy.  Women who live with an abusive partner statistically have been proven to be suffering with PTSD in approximately 85% of the cases studied.  It is a disorder that is not always recognized and treated.  I have observed this disorder also in women who lose their children in a violent fashion or their children suffer from a violent action. 

A news story about a child who was abducted from a British family brought this disease to my attention most vividly lately when the Mother of the abducted child was accused of being cold and unresponsive.  The parents were even investigated because of the behavior displayed by the Mother.  She was a classic case that Doctors should have identified immediately but did not.  Women who have abortions, lose their children to natural abortion or miscarriage can suffer from PTSD also and it is very seldom diagnosed in those cases.

People with PTSD may startle easily, become emotionally numb (especially in relation to people with whom they used to be close), lose interest in things they used to enjoy, have trouble feeling affectionate, be irritable, become more aggressive, or even become violent. They avoid situations that remind them of the original incident, and anniversaries of the incident are often very difficult.

PTSD symptoms seem to be worse if the event that triggered them was deliberately initiated by another person, as in a mugging or a kidnapping. Most people with PTSD repeatedly relive the trauma in their thoughts during the day and in nightmares when they sleep. These are called flashbacks. Flashbacks may consist of images, sounds, smells, or feelings, and are often triggered by ordinary occurrences, such as a door slamming or a car backfiring on the street. A person having a flashback may lose touch with reality and believe that the traumatic incident is happening all over again.

Not every traumatized person develops full-blown or even minor PTSD. Symptoms usually begin within 3 months of the incident but occasionally emerge years afterward. They must last more than a month to be considered PTSD. The course of the illness varies. Some people may recover within 6 months, while others have symptoms that last much longer. In some people, the condition becomes chronic.

PTSD affects about 7.7 million American adults but it can occur at any age, including childhood. Women are more likely to develop PTSD than men and there is some evidence that susceptibility to the disorder may run in families. PTSD is often accompanied by depression, substance abuse, or one or more of the other anxiety disorders.

The problem is finding a physician that will identify this disorder and get proper treatment for the patient.  It is a disorder that is under diagnosed and in court cases it is at times ridiculed especially regarding rape victims and victims of violence in the home.

For children suffering from PTSD, they are likely to experience nightmares, memory fragmentation, hypertension, flashbacks, amnesia, panic attacks and some may turn to substance abuse to avoid memories of the event. Most victims will suffer from a range of effects, such as physiological, psychological, social and self destructive behaviors.

Physiological outcomes take the form of a change in the brain activity, structure and functioning, also known as neurobiological effects. There may also be  psycho physiological effects, such as hyper arousal, increased propensity to be startled and increased neurohormonal changes which leads to greater stress and depression. It is often easy to overlook physiological outcomes as they take the form of physical issues such as headaches or lightheadedness and are treated accordingly.

Psychological outcomes include depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders and dissociation, where the individual seeks to hide from the present by submerging into their own world of fantasy oftentimes isolating themselves from others totally. Other social indicators include low self esteem, substance abuse and an inability to form interpersonal relationships. At its extreme, the individual may turn to self destructive behavior and attempt suicide, or take part in self injury and risky behaviors that can lead to death. Anger is evident in the PTSD patient and violent outburst and erratic behavior is not unusual.  Some are so angry that their rage cannot be contained and they have to be hospitalized until the anger can be dealt with and diffused.  Those who suffer from irrational outbursts of anger are usually more of a danger to them self however and are susceptible at times to suicidal actions.

If you suspect your loved one or any  individual is suffering with PTSD, there is treatment and help available in the form of stress medications and therapy. The key is finding a good physician that will recognize the symptoms.  These forms of treatment aim to correct the physical, physiological and psychological effects experienced and attempt to integrate the person back into their current lives.  Combined therapies seem to work best.  Behavior therapy like group therapy combined with medication is the most effective.

Blessings of joy for you throughout the weekend.

 

Rosie

PS:  I will be signed on to Keen today in the early morn and after 1pm est for most of the day and after 8 pm est  tonight.  I will be on "arrange a call" or "alert" status most of the day.  Please sign in and get on the list and I will get back to you  ASAP I promise.  If you cannot find me on the listing (I think I am somewhere on page 999999) then please type in ROSALEA in the "search for an advisor space" or use 1-800-Ask-Keen and the extension 01888797 to call me.  If I am listed as "busy" please sign in on the "arrange a call" que and I will get to you as soon as I am free.  I will either be on "Alert" status  or "arrange a call" for most of the day so I will be here to take your calls when you need me.  Keen has had a few problems with the phone system lately.  If you are dropped unexpectedly or if you are dropped from the call back list, please email me and I will report it to keen and make sure you can reach me

Are you really ready for that "Roll in the Hay" with your new friend?

                 

So you have met the guy of your dreams..at least he appears to be; you have been seeing him for a couple of weeks and he is wanting to have sex; you are thinking that it is either time to drop him or you will agree to sleep with him; and you think that even if you do have sex with him it will be ok because you can just be casual about it and not really get involved unless you want to.    HOLD ON ladies for there are some things you really should be aware of before proceeding.

There are research studies that conclude having sex releases a different set of brain chemicals in women than in men.  Evolution has "hard-wired" women by releasing a large dose of the hormone Oxytocin into your system and it makes you want to bond and create relationships.  Men don't get the warm-fuzzies because of testosterone.  It is much easier to "love em and leave em" so to speak than it is women.  You may think you can get away with casual sex but you can and usually do wind up with a serious case of attachment.

Are you positive that he is free to pursue a relationship with you?

He may be cheating on someone else… with you! Why is this your problem, you may ask? You’re not the one being unfaithful. But do you really want to be the “other woman?” The one who breaks up a relationship and causes another woman’s heartbreak? Even though you explain away the fact he may be cheating can you live with the fact that you may wonder always if he is being faithful to you. Do yourself a favor and find out some of the major reasons that a man cheats before you blindly accept his story that his wife betrayed him, does not understand him, or that is just does not love her anymore.

Even the sharpest liar on the planet will leave clues that he is in a relationship:

He only gives you his cell phone number and wants you to call him at work or in the daytime; 

He is quick to suggest hanging out at your place but never offers you the chance to see where he lives;

He avoids taking you to certain neighborhoods not because they are dangerous but just because he does not like them; 

He never gives names of his friends or where they live and he uses excuses like "he is hanging out with the guys" etc.;

 All of the above are definite clues that your guy has another booty call stashed somewhere and probably has a wife.

You should be aware if the guy is a "taker" and this is not always about money.  A guy can be a taker in other ways like time, attention and your sexual generosity but let’s start with the money issue first. 

There is no right or wrong formula about who pays for dates as long as you both agree with the arrangement.  If you are opening your wallet much more than he is and if he appears always to have forgotten his wallet or checkbook more often than he has them with you it is time to investigate his financial status.  Can you afford him?  Does he pay his bills or is he in a financial sinkhole that he will never dig out of?

If he exploits your generosity then there is reason to believe that he will do so as long as you allow it.  If he does little things like asking if you will: Pick him up from the airport? (Cabs cost so much!) Do his laundry? (He’s out of soap.) Host a couple of his buddies to watch the game? (You’re such a good cook.) Buy his mom a birthday present? (He has no idea what to get.) If any of these sound familiar, you’ve got a taker on your hands and you better beware. The "taking" behavior usually extends into the bedroom also. Don't expect a taker to be attentive to your needs for his needs will always come first. 

Is he a real clingy type?  The clingy type usually turns into the controlling, manipulating person that is demanding and selfish also.  Did he move at lightning speed to try and win you over?  This is a good sign he does not want to be by himself or he is looking for a women to fill his needs.  Asking for intimacy too quickly or spilling loads of very personal information could be acts of desperation, and that’s definitely a bad sign in a significant other.  There are some signs that will clue you in to this type right away:

He calls several times a day and wants to talk for hours at a time even when he knows you have to work or have other things to do; 

He becomes short-tempered or whining when you want to spend time with your girlfriends or family;

He is excessively close to his Mom and expects you to mother him like she does; 

Those are just a few clues that he is a closet controller.

You should seriously find out in the beginning if your new potential sexual partner has just got out of a relationship.  A recent breakup is a usually a big glaring danger sign.  If you have ever been through a bad split in a relationship then you know it takes time to recover.  He may not be over his last relationship.  Find out before you because a causality.  He may think he is ready for another relationship but if the timing is not right you can be the loser. He may be looking for someone to help him ease the pain of not having her around him.  In short, he may be using you to fill his loneliness, whether he realizes it or not. 

There are also clues about how well he may perform in bed before you jump in there with him.  If he is a bad kisser that usually will tell you that he probably has not learned very well and would not be happy if you criticized that fact.  Bad kissers are usually inept in bed I have heard.  If he seems more interested in "scoring" than he does being with you as a friend then that definitely is a sign that he will be a selfish lover.  Some guys are simply looking to add another notch to their bedpost. Men like this probably won’t take the time to find out what works for you between the sheets. Instead of a steamy, sexy romp, you could get a “wham-bam, thank ya, ma’am.”

There are some factors that can take the wind out of his sails so to speak like smoking, a big belly; he has insomnia, or taking medication for depression.  All or any of these could result in erectile dysfunction.  Unless he is an adept lover in other ways your nights of passion may end up just flickering a bit!

Now on to the really scary stuff!  STD's. Unfortunately, women are more susceptible to STDs than men. It has nothing to do with promiscuity; women are simply more vulnerable to infection than men because of our anatomy. It’s easier for men to transmit infections to women than vice versa. STDs are also more difficult to detect in women. 

There are more than 25 known STDs – some curable (Chlamydia, gonorrhea), some not (HPV, herpes, HIV/AIDS). Many can be transmitted through oral sex – you’re not playing it any safer that way. In fact, having unprotected oral sex puts you at especially high risk for gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and hepatitis B. Condoms offer partial but not total protection against genital warts and genital herpes. This factor alone is enough to make a girl want to stay at home and date Kermit exclusively but you can do some checking into his sexual history and it is not uncommon to request a clean bill of health from the local clinic before taking that risk of contacting an incurable disease.

If you are a drinker you might want to cut back on this if you are dating...using poor judgment when drinking is common among women.  Instead of three Long Island iced teas maybe stick to just one.  He may think that will be the avenue for seduction for him and that if you’re sloshed it will be easier to steer you into his bed. Another reason you might not want to fool around when drunk is that your encounter may not be private.  You may get up in the morning and find your sexual encounter is plastered for all to see on FrontPage or YouTube. Because of the use of the "date rape drug" recently I would watch what I drink, how much and don't let it leave your hand for any reason.

If you are feeling vulnerable and you are truly looking for a long term connection it is wise to take your time before deciding to sexually commit to someone.  Sometimes women end up sleeping with men they don't really even like because they are lonely or bored. 

You might think that shagging someone you don’t like will make you feel attractive and empowered, but those feelings are fleeting. Chances are you’ll actually end up feeling used, empty or guilty. The underlying problem hasn’t been addressed. And what about his feelings? You may not be attracted to him, but he could be hoping to develop a relationship with you. 

If the guy is as great as you think he will not drop you if you take your time about jumping in the sack with him.  Become friends first, find out about his life and background so you are prepared to take the next step.  Discuss your fears about sexually transmitted diseases and offer to go and get checked at the clinic with him so you both are sure of what you are dealing with.

Today more than ever it is important to be aware of what you are getting into.  All too often I have women call me and ask:  Is the third date to soon to have sex?  I am always dumbfounded by this question and want to give the two hour lecture about caution.  Most women will think that being overly cautious will ruin their chance of keeping him interested but that is the wrong reason for entering into a sexual relationship.

Get savvy, be informed and respect yourself enough to know that you are worth the wait. 

Blessings of knowledge and freedom for you this day!

Rosie

PS:  I will be signed on to Keen today in the early morn and after 1pm est for most of the day and after 8 pm est  tonight.  I will be on "arrange a call" or "alert" status most of the day.  Please sign in and get on the list and I will get back to you  ASAP I promise.  If you cannot find me on the listing (I think I am somewhere on page 999999) then please type in ROSALEA in the "search for an advisor space" or use 1-800-Ask-Keen and the extension 01888797 to call me.  If I am listed as "busy" please sign in on the "arrange a call" que and I will get to you as soon as I am free.  I will either be on "Alert" status  or "arrange a call" for most of the day so I will be here to take your calls when you need me.  Keen has had a few problems with the phone system lately.  If you are dropped unexpectedly or if you are dropped from the call back list, please email me and I will report it to keen and make sure you can reach me

Control..Do you need it?

Are you always seeking to control the circumstances around you?  Do you need to find a way that you can determine the outcome before an event takes place?  Being in “control” means many things to people but it is mostly a fear based emotion.  Being in “control” is an illusion that we create.  The need to manipulate and control is a big fear. And if it applies to you, I suggest that you consider the fact you don’t have to be in control to survive.

You can detach from the conflicts and confusion in your life by simply refusing to try to control the outcome.

Most of us want to manipulate and control our circumstances, but these are fear-based emotions.  We’re here on earth to learn to let go of our fear-based emotions such as prejudice, selfishness, jealousy, envy, blame, repression, greed, the desire to control, and the list goes on and on and on. 

There are techniques that you can use to limit your need to be in control all the time.  It takes analysis of behavior but it is a simple process once you begin to utilize it.

To begin the process you need to get a notebook to write on and I suggest you use a notebook that you will devote entirely too just this one factor and that is analyzing why you need to be in control.

Start by asking yourself the following questions and enter them in the notebook and also enter your response immediately.

1.    Who are you trying to control in your life at this time? (A mate or lover, your in-laws, friends, boss, associates, etc.)

2.    Why? What do you fear might happen?

3.    What if that did happen? What is the worst it would mean for you?

4.  What if you were to integrate your fear by letting go and allowing circumstances to flow to their logical conclusion? 

5.  Which is the most logical choice between the two above?

6.         6.  Can you give up your expectations? If the other person comes through, great. If they don’t come through, that’s okay too.

Usually, attempts to control are an effort to get someone else to change -- to become what you want them to be. But you can’t change other people. It doesn’t work. Even if you manage to get what you want, it won’t last. The other person will be repressing who they are and no one can do that for long.

In the case of severe conflicts, sometimes the only way to be responsible to yourself is to remove yourself from the environment you find yourself within. But if you’re going to stick around, what do you have to lose by just mentally standing over in the corner and observing?

When you feel the need to control a situation you might want to investigate why it is so important to you to do so at first.  I know that a lot of parents in their need to control their children totally lose sight of the fact that even if they control them for now that when they are not observing them they will revert back to what feels right for them regardless of the situation. 

All that you can truly hope to accomplish when raising children is to instill in them a basic value system and pray that they will use it when faced with decision making in their lives.  There is no guarantee that what you have taught them will take precedence however from what they learn from their school teachers, peers, environment etc.  They have to make their own mistakes and all you can do is step back after they are grown and observe.  Letting them make mistakes is part of growing up also.

There is a definite difference between guidance and control.  You can present your argument in a manner where you teach someone versus manipulate them into doing what you want.  If you can show the basis for your belief and let them use their free will to decide if your way of doing things is preferable to what they are doing then you can become a teacher and not a controller.  If you are constantly getting angry because others do not think the way you do or react the way you want them too then you must realize somewhere inside you have deep seated fears and are a controller.

I see a lot of Father’s with military backgrounds wanting to run their home like they are commanders on a ship.  This is a recipefor disaster because your family will rebel I guarantee it.  Whenyou are in charge of a large group of people you will feel the need to control every situation for fear your project will fail.  You cannot survive long adopting that form of management.  Trust has to come into the equation and that applies to family situations as well.

When women decide to manipulate their partners they are working from a deep fear also.  Instead of being forthcoming and asking for equal consideration they find ways to manipulate the outcome.  Some use denial of sexual favors, or some will become silent and leave their partner to guess what they might of done wrong etc.  This is all forms of control and manipulation and is driven by fear.

Learning to observe and let go of the outcome is an important part of living in the moment.  It is what we all need to strive to do.  Do not think that by letting go you are losing something because that is not the case.  This is not a matter of losing something it is simply allowing something to occur in a natural manner without manipulation on your part

Many blessings of peace and abundance to you this day.

Rosie

PS:  I will be signed on to Keen today in the early morn and after 1pm est for most of the day and after 8 pm est  tonight.  I will be on "arrange a call" or "alert" status most of the day.  Please sign in and get on the list and I will get back to you  ASAP I promise.  If you cannot find me on the listing (I think I am somewhere on page 999999) then please type in ROSALEA in the "search for an advisor space" or use 1-800-Ask-Keen and the extension 01888797 to call me.  If I am listed as "busy" please sign in on the "arrange a call" que and I will get to you as soon as I am free.  I will either be on "Alert" status  or "arrange a call" for most of the day so I will be here to take your calls when you need me.  Keen has had a few problems with the phone system lately.  If you are dropped unexpectedly or if you are dropped from the call back list, please email me and I will report it to keen and make sure you can reach me

How to Eliminate Poverty Consciousness

Good Afternoon from the misty mountains!  I have read a very interesting article in the Mind Power News report that I would like to share with you today.  It involves something very pertinent right now as the economy has taken a nose dive.  I hope you will enjoy the article and take its message to heart.

How to Eliminate Poverty Consciousness
 

By Jafree Oswald and Margot Zaher

Creators of The Secrets of Manifesting

Have you ever wondered how poverty consciousness is created and what you can do to step out of it? 

Sometimes it happens that we become overly entangled in the material world and get wrapped up in feeling that we always need more money. This idea of lacking money sends toxic stress chemicals to the brain causing the body to fight or flee for its life.

Anytime we repetitively feel that there is not enough of "this or that", it forms a chemical rut of impoverished thinking in our body-mind which depletes our energy, manifesting vibration, and financial outlook on life. Every time this lacking feeling is regurgitated it creates mini "poverty attacks" in the inner world, which eventually manifest into physically lacking finances on the outer world.

The good news is that this entrapped cyclical experience is only here to give you an experience of what you don’t want, so that you are inspired to one day become clearer on what you really DO want! The enlightening secret is that this pattern is easily shifted by simply refocusing your awareness OFF of neediness and ON to feelings of gratitude and appreciation.

"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world." ~Buddha

When you put your attention on feelings of acceptance and gratitude for what you do have, you start sending positive expansive feeling based chemicals directly into your brain which are felt throughout your body.

The more frequently these “appreciation chemicals” are produced, the happier you become and the higher your manifesting vibration grows. This vibrational inner shift causes you to physically attract that higher paying job, a huge contract, that wealthy client who loves you, or a sizeable check from that special person in the outer world.

Even though your financial situation may be struggling, impoverished, or absolutely bleak for years, it really does not matter. You can instantly shift into the experience of feeling more abundant and start manifesting abundance! Simply refocus your attention for 24 hours on deep feelings of appreciation and gratitude. Choose to focus on ANYTHING that you can authentically feel deep gratitude for. We live in an abundant conscious Universe. With patience, you will soon begin to see these physical manifestations of abundance come your way.

“Look within, see The Divine Self. Only then there will be an end of the world and its miseries.” ~Ramana Maharshi

There is an ancient golden secret to breaking out of the prison of poverty consciousness forever that we'd like to share with you. This secret is to ONLY measure your financial abundance based on the quality and quantity of ABUNDANT FEELINGS you are having.

Meaning that your outer wealth is never going to be 100% trustworthy measurement of how abundant you really are. Anything and everything in the outer world will be taken away from you one day. Abundance based on resources from the outer world is illusory, and is a form of impermanent abundance.

The true permanent state of richness only comes from being connected to the divinity within. Appreciating what is here now or the goodies that are coming your way is the fastest path to getting there. Yes, there are many multi-millionaires in this world who aren’t very appreciative, still don’t FEEL rich and are continuously striving to become wealthy. Even though they have plenty of dough, they are still letting themselves remain entrapped in the realm of poverty consciousness.

Consistent gratitude is the easy track to ending poverty internally and externally. When your abundance is measured by how deeply you FEEL abundant and how often you visit this feeling, then your experience of being rich is truly unstoppable. This is the most direct path to financially magnetizing massive abundance to you in the outer world.

“You are not inferior Beings in need of enlightenment…you are not misguided children trying to find your way home. You are powerful Leading-Edge creators riding the most significant wave of expansion that has ever occurred.” ~Abraham-Hicks

Now that you know this secret, be curious about the beliefs you are repetitively having about your current financial situation. We all have hidden beliefs that are running the show behind the scenes. If somehow you have a deeper belief that you must work harder in order to be truly successful, then that is exactly what you will create. 

Go deeper inside. Explore what is beneath those old paradigms that make you struggle more, work harder (and not smarter) to achieve unnecessary stress and make you feel less successful and abundant. There is a much more expansive, empowering belief system available. You can begin to form these new beliefs today by living as if you have already arrived at this abundant life that you love.

So start relaxing while you're at work, appreciating that electric bill that gives you light. Go and have that special experience that you've always wanted, and really enjoy this amazing body and creative mind that have been freely given to you! As you consistently appreciate this divine manifesting vehicle that you are living in, you'll notice how each day of your life unfolds itself in the most magical and abundant ways.

May you have a peaceful abundant day filled with laughter and joy!

Rosie

PS:  I will be signed on to Keen today in the early morn and after 1pm est for most of the day and after 8 pm est  tonight.  I will be on "arrange a call" or "alert" status most of the day.  Please sign in and get on the list and I will get back to you  ASAP I promise.  If you cannot find me on the listing (I think I am somewhere on page 999999) then please type in ROSALEA in the "search for an advisor space" or use 1-800-Ask-Keen and the extension 01888797 to call me.  If I am listed as "busy" please sign in on the "arrange a call" que and I will get to you as soon as I am free.  I will either be on "Alert" status  or "arrange a call" for most of the day so I will be here to take your calls when you need me.  Keen has had a few problems with the phone system lately.  If you are dropped unexpectedly or if you are dropped from the call back list, please email me and I will report it to keen and make sure you can reach me

What would you do if you were asked to be an Earth Angel?

             

What would you do if suddenly God appeared before you and asked you to be one of his Earth Angels for just one day?  You would be free to help whoever you would like to help and do whatever you felt necessary to ease someone’s journey on earth.   Would you accept readily?  Would you hide and refuse to help?  Would you make excuses that you are just one little person and could not possibly help?  Would you step outside your family and reach out to a stranger? The rewards would guarantee advancement of your own soul and recognition from God. 

If you were faced with the daunting task of being an Angel remember the goal would be to help another and not glorify yourself.  You would be doing this with little recognition here on earth.  It would be a task that you choose to do that will bring peace to another no matter how small.

I decided last year that I would seriously devote just one day of the week in my life in service to God and his children.  I would not take on tasks that were impossible but doable.  Tasks that would make a difference in another’s life.  It was very hard for me to set aside even one day of the week when I really thought about it at first.  I started using Sunday as my day to give to another and soon my Sundays would be filled with family and obligations and I put the day off until Monday and then I promised I would think of another and do something that would be pleasing in the eyes of God.  I would do wonderfully well for a few weeks and then fall back into my habits of caring for home and family and not stepping out of my comfort zone.  Then…I decided that I would make the days I spent at the women’s shelter my chance to be God’s messenger of love.  It has paid off for me in many ways that I cannot tell you at the moment but that was not enough for the need was great there I admit but I knew in my heart there was more for me to do.

When you really want to make a difference in this world you will do so.  It simply means stepping outside your comfort zone and reaching out to another no matter what the need is. It is defining a need that you see and helping to provide a solution. It may be the simple act of helping a neighborhood child find a pet or giving a portion of what you earn to the poor and needy.  It may be volunteer work or contribution to a shelter but it can be anything where you see the need. 

 I have expanded my giving to once a day doing one act of kindness that I know will reflect on another and these simple acts have elevated my soul in ways I cannot define.  My tolerance for others has increased.  Especially for the more unfortunate ones I encounter along the way.  I no longer feel the necessity to pass judgment on others for I see their pain and share it for I make it a point to do so.  I am not trying to say that I am an Angel …not by any means but I am striving to act as an emissary of God and doing for others as I know his Angels in heaven do for us all.  Simple acts of kindness and understanding of another’s need is all it takes to change your life and turn your world around.

As I traveled on my journey of discovery this year there were times when I felt that this was an impossible task I had set out to do and that people did not give a darn no matter how much you reached out to them but I was so mistaken.  I am learning by giving to others that I am elevated by spirit.  That my needs become smaller and theirs become more evident.  At first I found it very difficult to find others that really wanted my assistance and I got a little upset with that but now God sends them to me.  I even believe that the calls I receive on Keen are sent to me for a purpose I don’t always identify at first.  It is a divine union you forge with God when you begin a journey of giving to others. 

When I became wheelchair bound and my activity was restricted I felt that I was not going to be able to do much but I forgot that my greatest gift from God was my ability to feel others pain and find ways to help them overcome grief and loss in their lives. 

I started a journal at the beginning of the year that I have devoted to simple acts of kindness that I can and strive to accomplish each day and when I go back and read where I started and how I felt at the beginning I am amazed at how much peace has been added to my soul. 

I hope to encourage you all to start a similar plan of action and to not be afraid to begin this journey.  Get an 8x10 spiral notebook and begin to write one page a day. If you only have time for one sentence that is okay but begin no matter what.   Record your feelings about this quest and what you would like to accomplish.  Plot out the things that you think you can do with your resources at hand.  If you do not have unlimited resources (the majority of us do not) then don’t let that stop you for just taking the time to take a neighbor shopping or picking up your girlfriends child from the day care because she has a hectic day is a place to start.  Just little simple acts of kindness that will fill your heart with song and lift your spirit.  It is amazing how you want to feel that feeling you get from giving more and more.  You will be amazed at how creative you will become when you are thinking outside your own needs and looking for ways to help another.

I have been watching Oprah’s show on my computer “The Big Give” and it also made me realize that although this was a commercial way to do for others it pointed out one important fact that we can as individuals make a difference in the well being of others. 

Giving of yourself becomes addictive.  It is the best addiction in the world and it spreads like wildfire from one person to another.  What you do for one they pass it along I guarantee that.  It is the divine “Pay it Forward” concept.  That was a movie that inspired my soul and which I watch again and again and cry and cry through the entire film.  It moves me to action.  One little boy’s determination to provide for those in need.  We are elevated by that purpose and now when the world is showing us how terrible things are for others it is time each and every one of us become an Earth Angel and reach out where we find need.

When you begin to look at others and their frailties you stop pointing fingers and finding fault.  You realize truthfully that “But for the Grace of God go I” when you see despair and poverty. 

I did not begin this post to preach to anyone I just am hoping that by capitalizing on our own abilities and using them to help others is just what we need and the world needs right now.  Healing occurs with selfless acts of kindness.  Let us start healing the world one little act of kindness at a time.

 Rosie

PS:  I will be signed on to Keen today in the early morn and after 1pm est for most of the day and after 8 pm est  tonight.  I will be on "arrange a call" or "alert" status most of the day.  Please sign in and get on the list and I will get back to you  ASAP I promise.  If you cannot find me on the listing (I think I am somewhere on page 999999) then please type in ROSALEA in the "search for an advisor space" or use 1-800-Ask-Keen and the extension 01888797 to call me.  If I am listed as "busy" please sign in on the "arrange a call" que and I will get to you as soon as I am free.  I will either be on "Alert" status  or "arrange a call" for most of the day so I will be here to take your calls when you need me.  Keen has had a few problems with the phone system lately.  If you are dropped unexpectedly or if you are dropped from the call back list, please email me and I will report it to keen and make sure you can reach me.

A Conversation Under the Willow Tree

 

I am not sure what is happening in the world right now but the tension is so high that you can cut it with a knife for those of us who are super sensitive to such things. I started this blog about the terrible events I have been watching in the news but it has grown to be more about how our own actions count in the grand scheme of things and how we are responsible as individuals. I spent some time meditating with some good friends this weekend and we discussed a variety of problems occurring in the world. Often when I meditate outdoors in the fresh air I welcome my guide Joseph to come forward to take our questions and  reply for our group and this weekend was no exception.  The general message that came through was that great changes are coming and are inevitable.  How we deal with them is important and it will show how much we have evolved.  The problems are not going to go away.

The weather, the elections, the turmoil’s that are growing over transporation costs and the escalation of the world hunger are just a few frightful things that are going on.

What I have been seeing in the newspaper is enough to make you want to run for cover and hide in the hills but that will not help.  Many are resisting the changes that are coming and they are not going to go quietly into the night.  We have heard for a very long time about a false prophet and that there is one who is coming who will fool many with his charms and I do believe that is a prophecy that has come also.

We have to realize that when we see children committing horrendous crimes against others that we are a nation that is in trouble.  The problem lies within for violence, racism, hatred and distrust are all learned and they are not genetic.  We have to start in the home and in the community and really get involved once again with our communities and families. Isolating ourselves will no longer be the order of the day. 

Big oil companies have ruled since two of the big oil promoters have been in office and running the country in the United States.  This was foretold also that we would put in place those that did not respect our rights.  You are going to see a lot of kicking and screaming as Americans get united and stop the downward slide we