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Domestic violence is one of societies major issues and understandably so. Violence against anybody is indeed criminal and should never be tolerated, hidden or covered up. I however, am going to talk about the flip side of the coin. The male victim of domestic violence. Sadly this crime often goes unreported, due to a variety of reasons. Unfortuately, it's been a widely held assumption that women are always the victim. That "evil man" is the perpetrator.

According to the National Center For Victims of Crime, as many as 43% of the males reported being the victim of violence, by a dating partner at least once. About.com, Men's Health says,

"Every year in the U.S., about 3.2 million men are victims of assault by an intimate partner. Most assaults are of a relatively minor nature such as pushing, shoving, slapping, or hitting, though many are more serious - some end in homicide."

 Those are just the reported numbers. ~*Read the full article click here*~. In February 2003, the Bureau of Justice Statistics published this very telling Crime Data brief, ~*Click Here*~.

Years ago, I was an Adminstrative Assistant in the law field, I heard so many stories from men about the crazy things their wives or girlfriends were violently doing to them. I can honestly say, at least 99.9% of these stories were true. Seeing the bruises, witness testimony, even the intimate partner's admission of the assault. Like a badge of honor, some of these admissions from the ladies came complete with a gloating smile.

Steve's Story

I've known my friend Steve now for 30 plus years. An amazing individual, his skill in architecture and carpentry is very reminiscent of Frank Lloyd Wright and most definitely of the same caliber. The ideas that flow from him are "gifts" from many planes of existance. It wouldn't surprize me if he was channeling Mr. Wright himself. His work is that good. Every time I walk into his house my jaw drops as I view the changes he has made over the years.

Now I've seen this home gutted on many occasions, only to come back a year or two later and view a place that should be gracing the pages of Sunset or Modern Home magazine, if not the cover. This man is unbelievably, brilliantly talanted. Not to mention that even now, in his mid-fifties, he is still "drop dead" handsome, but the same sweet humble man, I've always known him to be. I love him like a brother and know him almost as well.
 
Several years ago, he was involved with a woman who had some major drug and mental issues. The years he was involved with her, I did not see as much of him as I would have liked to, but did run into him occasionally. I ran into both of them together once and she happily announced that she was pregnant. I was very happy about the baby part, just not so happy about the mom part. There was always something about her, that I just knew, was off. Steve of course, did not need another person saying "Dude; what the hell are you doing...." blah blah blah. I am sure he had enough of that going on with all his male buddies. I just kept my opinions to myself.
 
One afternoon while he was visiting me, he started to tell me about some legal problems he was facing. This woman had accused him of domestic violence. Now the clairvoyant side of me, never in all the years that I had known him, gave me one red flag that this man had a violent nature. My barometer for B.S. is really quite good and not once did I ever catch a glimpse of anything that would be cause for concern. So I psychically scanned him anyway. I took a step back and out of myself and went in deep I really wanted to be objective. Upon completion of this psychic scan, I looked him directly in the eye and said, "That's bull-shit, YOU ARE NOT a violent man"
 
He then went on to tell me that when he arrived home, she was "this crazy woman", she flew at him in a rage, most likely drug induced, and proceeded to slug him over and over again while she clung to his back. She hit his face, neck, and arms. She scratched and hit his back several times and when law enforcement arrived he was the one that was bruised and battered. When he told the police that he was just trying to get her off of him, he was taken to jail and served with a temporary restraining order. This was only one incident as there were several more.
 
Steve continued to try to work it out because of his infant daughter to no avail. The incidents continued to occur and eventually he was served with a permanent order for protection. He was restricted from not only his daughter, but the home he had so lovingly refurbished many times. The toll on my friend was indeed a heavy one. Legally having to defend yourself against "false" abuse charges is both time consuming and costly. Not only did he have to continue to pay the mortgage for some place he wasn't even allowed to live any longer, he had additional rent to cover as well.
 
Steve was and still is very lucky, he received some great legal advice and fought this battle with everything he had. He WON....... he regained his home back, fought all the charges against him and most importantly, he took custody of his beloved daughter and she is a happy healthy teenager today. The abuser is no where to be found as they have not had contact from her in several years. I always knew he was innocent, in fact, I introduced him to one of my best friends 10 years ago and they are still dating today. I never would have set him up with one of my best girls if he really was abusive. Her response to this blog is......"Good, Steve's story needs to be told."
 
Unfortunately the fact remains that women are "far more likely" to call the police even if they are at fault. They know how the police will usually react to domestic violence. 99% of the time, it is the man who is either arrested or at the very least asked to leave his home and sometimes on a permenant basis. The general public needs to become painfully aware that domestic violence is anything but a gender specific crime. It is high time for the human race to get out of this "man bad, woman good" mentality and face reality. Women are not always the victims of domestic violence. Those that are abusing spouses, kids or intimate partners, need to be brought to task. Way to many men, husbands, sons, brothers and friends are suffering in silence. Domestic violence against anybody is a crime whether they be, women, children or men. It's unfortunate however, that most men will have to rely on private counseling services as opposed to community resources for breaking the cycle of violence.

The National Domestic abuse hotline 1-(800)-799-SAFE

The National Child abuse hotline 1-(800)4-A-CHILD  

The following is taken from the Oregon Counseling.org handout, you'll find the link below:

What Are The Characteristics Of Women Who Are Abusive And Violent?

The characteristics of men or women who are abusive fall into three categories.

Alcohol Abuse.  Alcohol abuse is a major cause and trigger in domestic violence. People who are intoxicated have less impulse control, are easily frustrated, have greater misunderstandings and are generally prone to resort to violence as a solution to problems. Women who abuse men are frequently alcoholics.

Psychological Disorders.   There are certain psychological problems, primarily personality disorders, in which women are characteristically abusive and violent toward men. Borderline personality disorder is a diagnosis that is found almost exclusively with women. Approximately 1 to 2 percent of all women have a Borderline Personality disorder. At least 50% of all domestic abuse and violence against men is associated with woman who have a Borderline Personality disorder. The disorder is also associated with suicidal behavior, severe mood swings, lying, sexual problems and alcohol abuse.

 Unrealistic expectations, assumptions and conclusions.  Women who are abusive toward men usually have unrealistic expectations and make unrealistic demands of men. These women will typically experience repeated episodes of depression, anxiety, frustration and irritability which they attribute to a man's behavior. In fact, their mental and emotional state is the result of their own insecurities, emotional problems, trauma during childhood or even withdrawal from alcohol. They blame men rather than admit their problems, take responsibility for how they live their lives or do something about how they make themselves miserable. They refuse to enter treatment and may even insist the man needs treatment. Instead of helping themselves, they blame a man for how they feel and believe that a man should do something to make them feel better. They will often medicate their emotions with alcohol. When men can't make them feel better, these women become frustrated and assume that men are doing this on purpose.

Please follow the links below for more information:

~*Oregon Counseling*~

~*Fathers for Life*~

~*Battered Men.com*~

~*PreciousJulliett's blog titled "Abusers"*~

Peace out friends,
Margaret

It's been a good long while since I have blogged. Not everyone likes it when I blast out of my obnoxious "pie hole". But here today....... I write about my beloved daughter a.k.a. My Little Princess. I'm really quite obsessed with my daughter, mind you... in a good way. She's 25 now, newly married and with a child on the way. My first grandchild. We both doubt she will ever have another. This one was a surprize, but not really.

When she hit puberty, her life became somewhat of a downward spiral. I would guess; that is pretty normal, especially for teenagers. But Princess got hit a little harder with life than most normal teens. Without too much detail here, I will only say that a Father's love is so very detrimental to a young girls self esteem. Princess' father made it very clear back then, that he wished I were dead and that she was never born. >>>Pat's self on back and says........"Girl, you sure know how to pick em", LOL.

Inspite of everything, Princess and I were always meant to be together. I never wanted children when I was younger. I guess I was just too dang selfish. However, the Goddess in her infinite Wisdom, will always have her say.  When Princess was conceived, my life changed in an instant. I never knew I could love somebody soooooooo much. Even during those difficult teen years. She is about as head strong as it gets, more so than I.  Even though I prefer the term tenacious, my mother quite often refers to me as pig headed. Hey..... she could be right.

During those tumultuous times, school became pretty unbearable. Much to my disappointment, and believe me..... I tried everything to keep her in school still, she gave up. I had always told Princess that school was not an option, but mandatory. I didn't care how she did it as long as she did it. Youthful naivete 9 times out of 10 views conforming to society as being imprisoned by society, but only while they are young. A few years go by and those altruistic views become painful reminders of silly teen screw ups.

Being the overindulgent parent that I am, (Hey.... they don't come with a manual), I let it slide under the premise of one day, she'll understand that it was a mistake on her part. Well my friends, that day is now here and even though it took a little longer than I had hoped, Princess now has her high school completion certificate in the form of a G.E.D. Now she can finally move on with her education, which includes both nursing and culinary arts. She has even expressed her desire for being a pediactric physician. Those doors have now swung open very widely for her.

Congratulations to my beautiful daughter and very best friend. You did it girl and I am very proud of you!!!

Love Ma' ma <<<<< knowing how much you hate that :))

Peace out friends,
Margaret

Psychics

Real vs. Phony 

There's been a lot of buzz around recently regarding the ethics or lack thereof concerning advisors selling spells for ungodly amounts of money. It saddens me to see that these people are actually still doing this kind of thing. We all know a spell isn't going to help you lose weight, but changing your eating habits and getting some exercise will. Gaining financial freedom or getting your lover back with a spell??? OK the power of suggestion is indeed powerful, but what happens when doubt comes in?? You may very well be able to chant naked over a candle while turning counterclockwise and taking ten steps backwards to bring your lover back. But sadly the core problem of the break up will still be there and most likely Prince Charming will be gone again very shortly.   Not to mention that the selling of spells is a strict VIOLATION against the Keen community rules.

The talented, askdrdonna wrote an amazing blog about shifts in energy and it's a great read, check it out. ~*Click Here*~.Hopefully, It will make as much sense to you as it did to me.

I am also going to share with you an article I wrote over 4 years ago for my old website regarding phony psychic scams. I sincerely hope that this will help you determine wisely who it is you wish to speak with.

Psychics.... Real vs. Phony

How To Tell The Difference

Unfortunately the psychic industry has taken some pretty hard knocks due to the unethical practices of certain individuals who see potential friends/clients as targets. Sometimes the difference can be pretty hard to spot. At first they seek to gain your confidence, then after they have your confidence, they move in for the kill so to speak.

Those who claim 100% accuracy

Anyone who makes the claim of 100% accuracy should be avoided, unless you have absolute total proof from trusted friends and relatives. Only the "Divine Source" (God/Goddess/Supreme being) is 100% accurate. It is  humanly impossible to be able to connect with every one you speak with.  There will always be energies you do not connect with.  If you happen to be speaking to a psychic you don't feel comfortable with, politely say thank you and end the conversation immediately.

The one thing to remember is that the human race is blessed/cursed with free will and said free will can alter the future outcome in a heartbeat.

Those who claim to reunite lovers within 24 hrs. (for a price of course)

Although I have been a practitioner of the magickal arts since childhood, I adamently refute those who use these practices to make money off the masses. My basic view is, magick is not to be played with. Casting spells to force or manipulate any person to do another's bidding goes against my moral beliefs and borders on the dark arts.

To put it simply, if a person doesn't want to be in a certain relationship with another, it is better to let them go with love and light, then to try to force them to be where they don't want to be. Wouldn't you rather be with somebody who is with you because they actually really love you???

Those who claim you have been "cursed" or living under a "dark cloud" asking again for compensation

Never send any money, credit card numbers, gift certificates etc. when asked to do so for removal of said evil influences. To do so unfortunately, will only worsen your plight. When readers resort to these types of practices, they prey on their marks over and over again to the tune of thousands of dollars.

I have always been amazed and repulsed by these practices. These people should be avoided at all costs. I refer to them as charlatans, theives and snake oil sellers, not to mention they are asking for themselves, some pretty crappy Karmic retribution. I veiw myself and my readings as professionally ethical and live by those standards. Most importantly, The only spells or dark energy that affects your life is that which you allow to.

Those who offer to sell you spells or "annointed" candles for exhorbitant prices

I am a candle artisan and I know first hand how some un-ethical individuals mark up their prices on what they refer to as spells/annointed candles. Sometimes these candles are sold for hundreds of dollars for one single candle. Don't be suckered into buying one of these. You will be out your large amount of money, having paid for false hope. My advice??? Don't pay anymore then the regular amount for any candle annointed or not, even if so and so tries to convince you that your prayers will not be answered unless you do. You can purchase candles anywhere, or use candles that you already have. What makes annointed candles what they are is the energy that is believed to have been put on them. How do you know that any candle you buy has truly been annointed. Chances are; you weren't there during the alledged annointing. You really don't know.

I suggest just this. buy plain and simple regular everyday candles and annoint them yourself. If you don't know the right colors, have or know the proper oils or herbs, use a regular white candle and annoint it with olive oil. Not to say that there isn't proper colors, herbs or oils for specific spell/prayer purposes there most certainly is. You must always remember that the magick comes directly from the intent of the user, so wouldn't the user benefit more from using they're own energies to bring about that which they truly desire? Only the user is in control of they're own destiny.

P.T. Barnum once made a statement similar to...... There's a sucker born every minute. Unfortunately it happens to be true. They're alot of individuals out there who are willing to part with they're hard earned cash and plenty of unethical individuals more than willing to take it from them. These individuals prey on the misery of others and their only thought is on their own pocket books. Always remember....

Buyer Beware!!!

Peace out friends,
Margaret

First of all... I have to say, I absolutely love my brother, he's such a great guy. Out of the 5 brothers I have, Andy is my favorite and closest. We are 10 months apart, with him being my elder. But I have noticed something about him that disturbs me to such a great extent. Mostly, because I have looked in the mirror and have seen these traits within myself, as well as some of my closest friends and clients. Oh sure, I could have copped to the truth and made this all about me, but it's so much more fun to pass the buck and put the blame all on him. Payback for all of his childhood squealing to mommy disquised as protecting and keeping me safe, LOL!! By the way brother..... you will always have my thanks, like you have always had my back.

I know when I explain these traits of his (mine), a lot of you may have that bulb in your head light up and shine very brightly. He's a very charming Gemini, and when I say charming, you'll find his picture next to the word in the new Webster's dictionary. While we were growing up the girls in junior high and high school would seek out my friendship just for the chance that he may pick one of them to date. The epitome of "very cool dude"!!! All my girlfriends today in fact still "love" Andy.

I wrote a profile for him once on a dating site and gave him the username of "AndyPanda" with the catch phrase of "Just bad enough" explaining that although his bad boy days were long over, there was still just enough bad boy in him to make it interesting. All true as well.

Now unlike me... he's not a casual dater, he pretty much wears his heart on his sleeve. And ladies...... he's such a great boyfriend that I have such a hard time believing his idiot ex wives/girlfriends have actually broken up with him. OK OK, so I'm a bit predjudiced, but seriously, when I see and hear about some of the things he has done for the ladies, I wish that all ladies could end up with such a kind and loving man.  And now I humbly correct an error as was pointed out to me by none other than the star of this sessions blog.  Andy did infact divorce his wives.  But I might also humbly add that he is still on good terms with them both.  I know at least one of them doesn't deserve it.

So now we come to the light bulb part...... his girlfriend broke up with him about a week and a half ago, just before Valentines day. That's rough on any and all of you romantics out there. Now what made this especially sad for me, is how hard he's taking it. A few months back we discussed this relationship quite extensively. He did admit to me that he really didn't see this as a lasting thing. He hung in there though and treated her with both kindness and respect. He was there when her car was stolen and helped her get the rental car.  When her car was found and returned, he basically put it back together for her. He got a close friend of his to rent her his rental house and even helped her move into it, and still..... she pretty callously dumped him.

He did what a lot of my clients, close friends and even myself have done. We take all the blame and tear ourselves to pieces. "If only I were better looking" "If only I were younger", "If only I had a better body", If only had more money" etc. etc. etc. This list can go on for ever.

The truth is...... sometimes through no fault of our own, relationships just don't work out and the Universe has most likely done us a HUGE favor. Of course we can't see it at the time because being dumped hurts like hell. When he called me and asked me, "was he really that bad of a person??" I replied with this piece of advice that I will share with not only myself, but with all of us who beat ourselves down due to the actions or inactions of others "WE ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN WHAT WE DO TO OURSELVES!!!"

I am here and available for you 7 days a week and on most days 24 hours. I am both happy and able to help you find the clarity you seek.

Peace out friends,
Margaret

Just what exactly is the "marketable age"?? According to radio host Tom Leykis and his disciples/drones of "Leykis 101", this term applies only to women who are under the age of 30 and below. His belief is that women have an invisible expiration date, that activates on the day she turns 30. Now I do not really find this to be shocking, but what I do find shocking is the droves of people who actually buy into this tripe.

First off, I have absolutely NO gripe with the Professor or his radio program. As a matter of fact I used to listen to the Tom Leykis show on a regular basis until they pulled it up here in the greater Seattle area. Tom Leykis himself claims that his show's specific purpose is to sell advertising. This show has indeed sold millions in advertising. In fact Tom Leykis is a multi millionaire because of his ability to sell advertising. You really have to appreciate his rags to riches story. The basis behind this disgustingly materialistic point of view is the belief that as men age their worth value increases and that of the ladies decreases.

This discussion was also posed on the Plenty of Fish dating site forums. I have to admit, I'm a forum junkie. At times I participate, but for the most part, I just read them and get highly entertained.

Now here's the real question...... What exactly are the attributes that makes a person marketable??? If I were to believe the above sentiments, I should have withered up and died several years ago. Now here's the deal, my supposed expiration date passed close to 21 years ago and I've got to tell you folks, I've had absolutely no problem getting dates or forming relationships. However, from my own observations I can tell you how a person makes themselves unmarketable or at the very least a hard to sell item.

We've all dated this person:

The whiner, nothing ever goes right for this person, they're always underappreciated and mostly invisible and they let you know it.

The bitter woman/man hater basher, whenever a relationship comes to a close it's always the other persons fault. They simply refuse to look in the mirror or take responsibility for their own side of the street. They go on and on about how badly they were treated by the "ex" non stop, until your eyes roll into the back of your head as you quickly reach that near catatonic state.

The self absorbed braggart, they always give you a million and one reasons why you should consider yourselves lucky enough to be seen in their presence. They've got the best of everything and have no problem letting you know this, the most money, the best home, the greatest car and the list goes on an on. The self absorbed braggart makes sure you know that he or she will be THE best lover you've ever been lucky enough to sleep with. This individual has no problem with their self importance and the whole world including you is well beneath them.

The abusive alcoholic/addict. The evening may start out OK until he/she has one too many and it goes downhill from there.

The needy clingon, Yes this person is already planning your wedding before the first date is over. You know the type, every time they go on a date, they spend the whole day before it telling their friends and family that they believe this is the one. You need to think for them because they are incapable of thinking for themselves. They are helpless without you as they just cannot go on. This is a short list as I can go on and on, but that's not really what this blog is about.

It is my own belief that we are ALL marketable, at any age. It really just depends on the package you are trying to market. Nobody wants to go on a date and have to deal with the above scenerio or others just as bad. We wish to meet happy people who enjoy living, not miserable people. Water seeks it's own level so it stands to reason, that if you have issues to work out, you're probably not as marketable as you would wish yourselves to be. Take a break from dating and and look deep within. Learn to love the person you are continuously becoming then when you are comfortable with yourselves you WILL be that highly marketable commodity whether you are 16 or 60.

 

Peace out friends,
Margaret

 As I help plan the wedding of my beloved daughter, I can't help but think about the fact that this future date almost never would have arrived.  Without the intervention of a very sad furnace dweller, who stepped out of his self imposed purgatory to save a life.  

     In early 1996 we moved into a strange little place on the north end of Tacoma, WA, 26th and Verde.  Now I've always been a "north ender" as we had commonly referred to ourselves.  For the most part I tried to raise my daughter on the north end.  Hoping to give my child just a bit of an edge as opposed to our living in the less expensive Hilltop, East end, or even Lakewood for that matter.  Maybe that sounds sort of elitist, but I was always willing to spend a little more to keep my family a little more removed from, those areas where the crime rate is that much higher. Environment is a very strange beast.
    

Now anybody who knows me well, knows how close I am with my daughter.  She's now 25 and half my age but.... we still consider each other best friends.  I do not know where I would be with out her.  Even 10 years ago during those difficult teen years, I had this major obsession with her.
    

When I found the house on 26th Street, I had been looking frantically for a few weeks.  Time was getting short and the thought of being homeless was looming rather largely around us.  Then I found it...... this little white box of a house, sitting smack on a large corner lot.  Along with a gorgeous Magnolia in the back yard, there was also a half dead Cherry tree.  There was this strange little sun room off the back of the house where I had some of my most creative times.  The interior was a little bit of "30's" art deco, that you would've never expected from looking at the outside of it.
   

 Inside though, you could feel the anquish.  Even after the house blessing and the invocation of the protective ones, a sense of foreboding hung overhead like a very heavy cloud.  After the blessing just before the "move" I was speaking with an old friend, another psychic as a matter of fact.  We were under the blooming Magnolia tree and he said to me...."you know there was a suicide here".  Yes I knew it, you could feel it, there was no mistaking it.  His shroud of death hung so heavily in the air.  I had no other place to go so it was tune him out and make the best of it.  So I made the best of it for 7 years.  He was basically harmless, just spooky.
    

For the most part, it worked well to tune him out, but every time I walked past the furnace room in the basement, I knew he was there.  I could feel him lurking but I refused to see him in the corner of my eye.  I hated having to go into that little room for any reason.  The perverbial "room under the stairs" and under the stairs it actually was, LOL.  That darn furnace was over 60 years old and I always had to make some kind of adjustment to it inside THAT room.
    

Right behind the furnace were some shelves with doors on the outside that lead to my daughter's room.  She used to stuff that cubby hole with anything she didn't use daily.  That used to frustrate me to no end but I totally understand now why she did it.  I used to take a long stick to hook the boxes of canning jars and pull them out rather then going in there to get them for canning.  He was that spooky.
    

Because of this lost soul, a vortex was created in the upstairs hallway and it always felt like a door was open to the other side there.  It does not surprise me that I had my very first medium reading in that home.  The man who came through was also a suicide victim.  I had a lot of suicide victims come to me there as a matter of fact.
    

When we moved in, my daughter had chosen to take the room down in the basement.  I assume it was originally a family room.  It had a huge closet, a bathroom that you froze your butt off in everytime you had to use it.  The worst paneling on the walls you have ever seen, but the charming fireplace made that room a very desirable place.  Of course I had to nail the windows shut, because Princess and her friends had the nasty habit of sneaking out at night.  Not to mention.... those she snuck in.  I remember the day, LOLOL.  Teenagers, you just got to love them.
    

The earthquake hit the morning of Feb, 28, 2001, somewhere around 10:20 a.m.  I was in the middle of a shower and all of the sudden, I was slow dancing in hell, naked in my shower.  6.8 and the 45 seconds it lasted seemed to go on and on for at least a week.
   

 I managed to get the water off and grabbed a towel.  I was headed for the basement to check on my daughter, but she was at the top of the stairs when I came out of the bathroom.  She looked as if she had seen a ghost and quite literally she had.  As she explained to me what happened from her end that morning, the chills ran up and down and back up my spine and still does every time I think about what could have happened.
    

She was sleeping very soundly and he appeared to her in her dream.  His face about an inch from her's.  Geez, I'm getting chills now just writing about this.  Anyway he had to scream at her to wake her up as she sleeps like the dead.  "WAKE UP...... THERE'S AN EARTHQUAKE!!!"  Her eyes snapped open and she immediately sat up as he disappeared.  At that same moment a hanging glass lamp with hundreds of glass disks came crashing down. just missing her face and head by meer inches.  Had she not been woken up by our very sad furnace dweller, she surely would have died that morning.  I owe him so much for saving her, especially since he could not save himself.  I was also not surprised that about a year later, she gave that lamp to a friend.  It never hung in that room again after the earthquake.
    

When my daughter described him to me, I got chills again as this was the same man, with the dark hair and the goatee, I had seen in the corner of my eye behind the furnace.  Such a sad person, I believe he hung himself in the basement with his own belt sometime in the 60's.
   

 I did not see him again until the evening I was finished moving out and the final cleaning was almost finished.  The house was pretty emptied out and it was getting late, I still had the basement carpets to shampoo right next to that room. 

Now I had lived there for 7 years and never had a problem staying in that house alone at any time, nights, weekends, whenever.  It just never bothered me.  Oh I knew he was there, anybody sensitive who came down those stairs knew he was there.   But when I had emptied it of all my things it was way too eery to handle.  I still had that one last bathroom to clean and carpet to shampoo.  The wind was up that late August evening and the doors upstairs kept slamming shut.  Everytime it happened, I about jumped out of my skin.  That fact that I was alone didn't help much either.  My daughter was settled in her own apartment and my ex had moved out almost a year prior to that.  It was right around dusk and I had to grab something from the other part of the basement.  So I rounded the corner and looked up to see my daughter's savior hanging from his own belt dead for 3 days.
    

Honestly, I could not leave that house any quicker than I did that evening.  I mean..... I HAULED butt up those stairs, grabbed all my things, left the key on the mantle, locked the door behind me and never entered that house again.  Shock factor will get me every time.  I'd spent 7 years pretending he wasn't there, but he was.  He never harmed or caused trouble, this gentle, but so sad entity.  He may also have been somewhat of a practical joker in life, because he left us completely alone for the most part unless he felt it was his duty to help.  He DID make sure I saw him though before I left some 7 years later.  It scared the crap out of me.
    

The one thing I wondered many times was why I never had the urge to lead him over to the light of the other side.  As a student of life's metaphysical and humanitarian arts, that was something I always would have helped with.  It's what I am highly trained and skilled to do, but with him, I never even thought about it, not once until after I moved out and I've always felt really bad about it.  My best friend Lady Raven and I discussed it and then I was able to see it from a completely different perspective.  Strict orders from the other side, I was not supposed to.  Other psychics have also assured me that number one he won't leave and number two it was never my place to do that for reasons, I do not, nor will I ever understand.  However, he saved my daughter's life and I honor him with this tribute.  I hope the new tenants are treating you well and kindly, as I see when I drive past, they still live there.

Peace out friends,
Margaret

I hate the term "Soul Mate"..... Not that it's meaning is bad in and of itself.  The problem as I see it is, that it is THE most over used and bastardized term in the western world.


    When I hear that term in my daily work, I just want to stick white hot knitting needles through my eyeballs, and both of them as well as any eyeballs within a 10 foot radius of me.  


    Joe Q. Public often thinks that a soul mate connection is "The One".... as in finding the most perfect individual in the world, you know... the knight in shining armour, or that perfect little do everything princess.  Then they walk off together hand in hand into the sunset happily ever after.  Reality check, nothing could be further from the truth. 


    The thing is.... we have many soul mates through out our lifetimes.  All of them with their own lessons to teach and learn from.  Parents, siblings, children, close friendships, past/present/future relationships.  Even our 4 legged flatulently oblivious hairy beasts are our soul mates.


    For instance.... I have this silly spoiled dog and he can lay there so innocently, emanating some pretty noxious fumes while I sit their choking on my very breath.  But when he happily looks at me with those big beautiful brown soulful eyes.  I understand the meaning of unconditional love as well as patience.  How could he NOT be a soul mate?? 

My daughter is very much my soul mate, believe me... I have learned the meaning of patience and that was a huge lesson for me and not to get me started with my mother.  The lessons I have learned have been invaluable and I would never change a thing, even through the difficult times.


    We live in a world where we have many relationships.  Those that find their ultimate partner and some as early as the old "High School Sweetheart" scenerio are indeed blessed.  Especially after 30 plus years and they can still look into each other's eyes and see themselves as they were when they were 17.  Honestly???  That soul mate connection is very rare. Relationships are hard work, they don't just drop out of the sky into your lap in the form of a plate of happiness.

    

   When clients ask me when they will find their "soul mate", I have to stop myself from screaming out.  "LOOK ALL AROUND YOU, YOU'LL FIND PLENTY OF THEM!!!!"  I really really hate that term now, and trust me people, "Twin Flame" is now coming a very close second.

 

Peace out friends,
Margaret