So......If You Find Yourself Going Through A Divorce..READ THIS BLOG!
I will keep it short, direct and sweet. I know that many people view divorce as a failure, a death of a life with someone, a betrayal and even the end of the world. In the beginning, it may feel that way but it does not have to stay that way.
Part of being a human going through a divorce, you may feel lost, hurt, shocked depressed and some even want to die. When a person gets married, it should be with the intent of staying together forever. Then, reality changes and you find that the marriage you planned to stay in is gone. It is over. When one person wants the divorce and the other does not, it is easy to feel betrayed or to consider the person who wants the divorce to be selfish or cold. These are all valid feelings but do not let it ruin your life.
YOU CAN RE BUILD AFTER A DIVORCE..........
When that door closes, do not stare at it too long or you will not see the new door that is opening and could be better for you.
CASE #1:I had a friend find me after 20 years on my space. I asked her about her hubby. She told me that they divorced after being together for 20 years. He left her for someone else. She also stated that she thanks him very much for leaving her because now she is married to a wonderful man who worships her. She is able to be a stay at home mom and he makes life comfortable for her. She calls him her " blessing from God". I never heard her speak of ex that way.
CASE # 2: Another friend of mine had his wife leave him after 5 yrs of marriage. Prior to that, they were college sweethearts. He loved her 1000%. She wanted a different life so she left. He was very depressed. Then he met a new woman who loved him 1000% . She would cater to him and thought that he was the greatest man on earth. You could see how much she loved him. He was shut down and he was pushing her away. He was staring at the closed door. Then he woke up and he married her. They are happy and each other's best friend. They have two children and he new has the family that he desires to have.
YOU CAN EVEN BECOME FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX.
My sister was married to my brother in law for over ten years. They started dating when they were sixteen. I was barely born. My brother in law changed my diapers. When they divorced, it wasn't pretty at first but then, they became best friends. They talk everyday. He will always be my brother in law. Some times we have to heal then you can have the friendship. Give it time.
The best example of friends after divorcing is Chris and Janet Attwood. She talks about it on her website. They have been divorced for a long time but they are now business partners. She is the godmother of his baby with his new wife. They are an example of being mature and spiritually practicing what they preach.
THE LESSON IS................
Life does not end at divorce. It can be a new great beginning.