Your Boundaries Are Your Boundaries.
Quite often I speak about setting boundaries, this means deciding what for you is an acceptable way to be treated by others.
Not everyone will have the same level of acceptable behaviour. If someone isn’t willing to work within your boundaries you have to make a choice of either making an exception for that particular person or distancing yourself from them.
If you decide to make them an exception to the rule you shouldn’t do it with the thought that you will be able to change them and force them to interact with you by your rules, you should do it accepting them the way they are.
You will find you will tolerate certain behaviour from some people but not from others depending what level of friendship/relationship you have with them. We tend to put up with ‘boundary breaking’ from family but wouldn’t put up with the same behaviour from friends.
When you set boundaries they are yours and just as it’s up to you whether you allow someone to stay in your life if they break them, it is equally up to others whether they honour them or not.
You set boundaries for your well being you can’t make others comply with them if they don’t want to, just as others can’t make you comply with their level of acceptance.
Blessings.