Is Staying Together For The Sake Of A Child Really The Best Thing?
Or to put it another way……………….................
Dosn't Your Child Deserve Happy Parents Even If They Aren't Living In The Same Home?
Why would anyone want to put that much pressure on their child, because that is what you are doing even if you don’t realise it.
Happy children come from happy homes, happy homes make happy families be they single parent families, extended families, or two parent families. If you are staying together for the sake of the children, you are saying you are unhappy in your relationship but you will put up with the unhappiness for the sake of someone else. Why?
Children who are living with parents who are unhappy learn about unhappiness. Forget about the myths that say “children from single parent families don’t grow up to be well rounded, kind, caring, stable adults”. I actually know of more “unkind, uncaring unstable adults” who grew up living with both parents than I do who grew up living with just one parent, why because the parents were so unhappy in their relationship that as the problems within their relationship grew the resentment of the child they saw as the one thing trapping them in the relationship also grew, or completely the opposite occurs and they cling so tightly to the child as their only source of happiness that the child starts to feel trapped and then is in danger of resenting the parent who is doing it to them.
If you are unhappy in your relationship staying together for the sake of the children will not solve the problems it could make them worse.
Yes I understand every parent wants the best for their child, but really is staying somewhere you don’t want to be, are unhappy being, pretending to be happy really the best thing for your child. If you are pretending to be “happy families” rather than really being them, sooner or later the cracks will show and the person who will see them first…………… yep you’ve got it your child. Children and very perceptive.
We all care for our children to the best of our ability, we give them the tools for “good living” throughout their lives, is using them as glue to bind a broken relationship really giving them the best start in life, by doing that are we in danger of teaching our children that being with someone who makes you unhappy is better than being on your own and being happy?
Please just think what kind of message you are going to be giving to your child before you decide to stay together for the sake of that same child, because if you are unhappy your child will be too.