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Is Fear Stopping You From Really Living Your Life?

Fear starts off as a symptom of the cause of your thinking, very quickly it can become the cause of your actions.

 

There are few fears that we are not able to get rid of if we know the true cause of our fearful thinking.  My daughter has a fear of spiders, now it’s not the spiders she is actually afraid of it’s what they could do to her, this fear manifested itself when she was bitten by a spider at a young age, she remembers what it felt like to be bitten and now when she sees a spider it triggers the unhappy memory and her thoughts apply the memory to all spiders.  Her fear of spiders is triggered by a memory of a bad time if she could let go of the memory then the fear would not have a hold on her. .

 

Usually we can trace our fearful thoughts back to something unpleasant that has happened in the past, it might not have happened to us but someone we were close to and when we find ourselves in a similar scenario we project the unpleasant memories of it into the future and then the symptom of fearing the future appears.  If you can let go of painful memories from the past you won’t have any fear to project into the future. Sometimes the fear isn't even yours you are reacting to someone else fear.

 

To let go of fear you have to let go of memories that trigger the fearful thinking, and to do that you have to go to the root cause of those memories.

 

It is no good facing the fear and doing it anyway if you don’t know the root cause of the fearful thinking, because all you will do is deal with the symptom but the cause will still be there and it will eventually rear it’s ugly head again, and you will continue to manifest the cause of your fear because you are not getting rid of it.

 

It can sometimes be a painful thing to look at but once you get rid of it that’s it, it no longer has a hold on you and can no longer dictate to you what your actions will be and thus you are free from fearful thinking and free to walk forward with confidence knowing that something that harmed you in the past can’t do so again.

 

Blessings.

Published Tuesday, May 06, 2008 1:26 PM by Trinity Connection
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# re: Is Fear Stopping You From Really Living Your Life?

Dear Trinity:

Phobias and fears are very real to many people and I have to admit I have had one that is totally irrational until I dealt with it also.  I was absolutely terrified of frogs!  I knew they were harmless little creatures but somewhere in my past this fear manifested and I never dealt with it until I was late in my life.  We giggle about it now but it was scary at certain times of my life.  I would not go near streams, ponds, or lakes unless someone made sure there were no frogs in sight!  I think fear is passed from one lifetime to the next also.  Bringing your fears to the light of day and facing them is what is important and then you can and do put them in there proper place and they no longer will control you.

Rosie
Tuesday, May 06, 2008 5:57 AM by Rosalea

# re: Is Fear Stopping You From Really Living Your Life?

This is a good blog.  I found that once I began facing my fears, that fear was actually very weak, but I was just giving it too much control over my decisions. Once I decided to face my fears, they melted away very quickly.  Imagine if everyone gave love as much control over them as they do fear!  
Tuesday, May 06, 2008 6:42 AM by Amy6933

# re: Is Fear Stopping You From Really Living Your Life?

thank you rosie and amy for your comments.  If we can stop our fear taking over our thoughts we are well on the way to freedom.
Tuesday, May 06, 2008 8:36 AM by Trinity Connection

# re: Is Fear Stopping You From Really Living Your Life?

How do you let go? I grew up in an extremely abusive house. ( My *egg-donor* was mentally and violently physically abusive. ) Any time I had anything remotely good, it was immediately taken away from me and I was punished.

How do I let that go? I'm still in this cycle...completely afraid of anything good in my life. I hold people at arm's length and am TERRIFIED of being happy.

HELP?!
Tuesday, May 20, 2008 9:02 AM by Shell

# re: Is Fear Stopping You From Really Living Your Life?

Shell, It's a step by step process, you have to come to the realisation that you didn't do anything wrong and were punished unfairly.  Also you have to remember that the people who come into your life now are not the person who was abusing you.  Take your time getting to know them and slowly let them a little closer to you, remember you are always in charge, you take each step when you are ready, but if you don't start to let people a little closer to you then you will never find out that not everyone is going to harm you. There is no easy solution, you just have to take a deep breath and then take one step at a time.  
Tuesday, May 20, 2008 2:17 PM by Trinity Connection
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