Don’t Let Other’s Spoil It For You
I have just bumped into an old friend of mine whom I havn’t seen for at least 10 years if not more. Last time we saw each other I was not doing so well, just coming out of a rather nasty relationship, down on my luck, living hand to mouth, struggling from day to day. She was jetting off to some exotic Eastern country to be with her husband who works out there, her 3 girls were in University doing very well, the perfect family with the perfect life, and I have to say although we were good friends way back when, she did rather look down her nose at me.
Well after the usual pleasantries she asked what I was doing, so I told her I run my own businesses. Her eyes lit up and she enquired what they were I explained one was doing the Inventory Management for letting agencies, the other business was working as a Psychic Counsellor and Life Coach, and I occasionally do some photographic modelling. She asked if I was still living in the same rented cottage or had I finally bought my own house, when I said no I was still living where I had been living last time we saw each other that look of disdain passed fleetingly across her face. I told her my daughter was going to University later this year, and her reply to that was “wow she has done well despite having you for a mother”. (Ha Ha slap!!!)
She went on to tell me that all her girls had bought their own houses, and had families of their own, had good high flying jobs, and that she was jetting between the UK and Eastern Promise Land because her mother is ill, and in the 20 odd years her and her husband have been married they have actually only spent 13 of those years together if you put all the time when they have actually been in the same country together, and weren’t they the perfect family, and wasn’t it time I started getting a real life.
I stood there looking and listening to her and thought, 15 years ago this would have had me in tears, now I know I’m the lucky one, I have followed my dreams, I have walked a long hard road and learnt that you can have all the money in the world, you can have what is seen by the outside world as “the perfect family”, you can own your own house, have a fancy car, and a high flying job, but if you don’t have that passion inside you it means nothing, and I realised what I had that she didn’t have was that passion for living, that passion for saying okay lets make the most of what I have, that passion that drives me forward always striving for inner contentment, inner peace, inner achievement, that passion for realising that life is an adventure and it’s up to you to make it a good one or a bad one.
Next time someone makes you feel they are better than you because they have more than you, or are more successful than you, just look into their eyes and if the passion for life is not there, just pat them on the head say “there, there dear, not everyone can be as lucky as I am” and walk on.
If you have a passion for what you do, if you have a passion for life then you are the one who is successful.
Blessings