Bad Love IV
Jason contacted Greta on My Space. She was thrilled to hear from him but really nervous to talk to him. So she made me call him first. He said he had gotten off drugs and drinking and been working in Hawaii. He said he had kept the same job for a couple of years. He said he had stopped sleeping around. He said he was in church and had made a great effort to fix all his negative behaviors. He said he had tried to become the man he needed to be for Greta. He seemed sincere and said all the right things. I passed this information along and she called him.
He informed her that he since he found her again he’d move to where she was and show her how much he’d changed. She told him she wasn’t just going to take him back as she always had. She told him he’d have to prove himself. He said he’d wait as long as it took for her to see that he loved her and would do anything to keep them together.
I was impressed. It takes a powerful emotion to get you to leave the nice life you’ve made in HAWAII to come back to some hick town to a girl who tells you flat out she doesn’t want to date you. He didn’t care about what he was leaving behind if he’d be near her and show her that he had changed. He said his whole life would be devoted to getting her back no matter how long it took.
Well it turns out that he wasn’t motivated by strong emotion. He’s just crazy and a liar. Once he got back it took about two weeks for him to show his old self was still there. He was drinking and drugging, sleeping around, and quitting every job he got.
She had wised up since the last time and told him she’d never be with him again. It didn’t matter if she believed he was her soul mate. She had finally learned enough self respect to not allow herself to go into a bad situation. True love or not, he was bad for her.
He obviously is not advanced enough on his path to care about karma or doing the right thing. He has issues and doesn’t try to correct them. His desires are all physical. Even though he claims to love her deeply he is not willing to do the work to become a suitable partner to anyone. Maybe through his mistake in this life he will learn something and be more advanced in his next incarnation. There is even a slim chance he may change his ways in this life. Until he does, she has to move on and have the best life she can without him. Being his soul mate does not doom her to a life of misery and mistreatment. I am sure she will feel some part of her is always missing but in the big picture she can learn more and be happier on her own.
So even though people say that true love can conquer anything I think both people have to be fighting for the same thing. You shouldn’t stay in a bad situation just because the other person is your soul mate. Take what lesson you can from that experience and get away. Hopefully they will learn something themselves and a change can occur before the next lifetime together.