He was OBCESSED about you..why did he back off?
He calls every day, or sees you any chance he can get. Suddenly his obcession stops. At first he doesn't communicate but a few days. You tell yourself this is no problem. So you hang on a month. In that 4 weeks he has dwindled to 2 calls. Then it just all stops. Why?
The Answers are as varied as the type of men there are. Here are some:
YOU CHANGED INTO ANOTHER WOMAN ONCE IN LOVE.
This often happens to the professional woman that puts an aloof and balanced face to the public. She seems joyful or as if little bothers her. And most of all there is a mystifying boundary around her that absolutely intrigues men. Once in love she turns needy as a child. Men become shocked. They had enjoyed the elusive woman....but this?
HE WAS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE
Right away he said words like, "Marriage", "I love You", "I Want Children"......and you fell hook, sync and anchor into the belief that what he said you could believe. You start saying the same words back to him and suddenly he begins to pull back. Confused you call and message him, maybe even scold him. Now his picture is back on the dating sites, he says he is disappointed and with second consideration he does not want to rush anything. {This is a danger zone.} He leads you to believe with back off time he will know what he wants.} He doesn't. This is the player that has found his tool to net women. WORDS.
HE PUTS HIS FOOT IN THE DOOR JUST SO YOU WON'T CLOSE IT.
You have finally moved on from a long hurtful relationship. Suddenly he is calling again. It is as if he can mentally feel you are healed from him. Just hearing his voice sends you backwards in to pain. He doesn't call back. You wait by the phone because he says he has thought things over and you mean too much to him to lose. This happens over and over and over just when you are ready to move on.
HE WANTS YOU TO HAVE HIS BABY
Maybe you have known him long or only a short time but he constantly begs you to have his child. He says things would be different in his life if you had his baby. You have your doubts but get pregnant anyway. He runs. In the mean time you find out the woman before and after you also got pregnant. Maybe you sent love letters every day while he was in prison, sent him money, and gave him a secure home when he got out. Either way, your pregnant {by his request} and now he's gone. Why did he back off?
HE WANTED A MOMMY TO NURCHURE HIM ..SUDDENLY YOU HAVE PROBLEMS AND HE DOES NOT WANT TO HEAR THEM.
This is the broken winged bird. He has just gone through a rough divorce, recovering alcoholism, a lost job or disability. Like Florence Nightingale you made it your mission to be there for him. Oddly, when you have a problem he is gone. Off to another mommy woman he crys and she evolves her life around him. You are left high and dry after an operation in the hospital with no visits, or no shoulder to cry on in a life crisis. You are devastated. This lover was looking to breast feed not have a mature partner.
YOUR RELATIONSHIP BECAME A PRIZON
Things started out wonderful. You felt it safe to expect he not watch his Paid Preview Porn any more. After all, he had you. In turn, he said he expected you to never go out. Soon your friends quit asking you to go any where. Dutifully you followed your half of the bargain. He did not follow his end. He is a `Masta-holic' and could not stay sane of mind with out extracurricular activity. You found his Paid Preview Porn bill and it was not pretty. You had been ripped off. When you bitched about his lying unfaithfulness, he accused you of being too controlling. Now he is mentally gone. All you have left is time invested and hostile untrusting silence.
HE IS A NEW AGE BAD BOY AND LIKES FRIENDS - WITH - BENEFITS
Here is an odd twist. The New Age Bad Boy loves peace, sensitive conversation, the Dali Lama and can even be a mentor for many people. He makes you feel enlightened, has "slow hands" and understands what you need as a woman {or man.} Often he is bisexual. {He may say Sex is a form of "communication" to expand spiritual consciousness.} You thought he loved you. On your way to get Bagels, fresh out of the covers, he calls another woman in town on his cell phone. In front of you he tells "her" he needs a ride over as he has been staying with a "friend". You demand fidelity. He looks wounded and says "He's sorry you feel that way." You never hear from him again.
HE WAS THE WORLDS BEST LOVER BUT NEVER TOOK YOU OUT IN PUBLIC
Maybe he was married, and absolute secrecy was the rule. Perhaps he was a flirt offering you wonderful attention in the privacy of your home, but never took you out no matter how many times you mentioned it. The sex was amazing so you put up with it. Eventually you just quit asking for a night out. Welcome to the booty call man. A date for dinner out is next to marriage in this mans eyes. He worries constantly that his other victims may see him with you. Freedom of choice is his rule. Get an AIDS test.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU AS A READER?
I will ask you for your loved ones name. I will connect with his/her energy and focus on 3 questions first before taking questions:
1} HOW DOES HE FEEL ABOUT YOU?
2} WHAT ARE HIS INTENISONS FOR YOU?
3} IS THERE A FUTURE FOR YOU BOTH WITHIN 12 MONTHS TIME
I will read on your situation and be honest with you. In this world the last thing you need is a pretty fluff reading that will lead you on to stay in a bad relationship. I will also tell you if the person of your life truly is worth your time and effort.....all things are possible. Your wise actions control the course of much of your life.