BECOMING THE MASTER OF YOUR REALITY
There are two sayings, "Like attracts like." and "Opposites attract." Both are true.
There are just so many things in life for us all to be grateful about; yet, many people choose to focus on the negative things in their lives and what they don't have.
If you are a happy person, grateful for what you have, you will attract more things to be grateful for in your life. Yet, you will also attract negative people and experiences.
Negatively oriented people will want what you have, they will find comfort in your happiness because they can't find their own happiness, they will be drawn to you like "moths to a flame". You can choose to dim your light, your happiness, or you can choose to share it with them in hopes that they will begin to follow your lead and thereby be able to discover the way to their own happiness.
Each negative person that comes into your life will have a lesson to teach you, and your light will grow stronger as you navigate the negativity that they may bring your way.
The negative experiences that you attract will also be lessons, and are not always accompanied by negative people, such experiences can be easier to learn from because there usually isn't someone else to blame for the experience. When there is a lack of human involvement in an experience (negative or positive) we tend to look towards the Divine and ourselves for the reason behind such occurances, and so the lesson can be easier to see.
If you are a negatively focused person, with a tendency to see more bad than good, depressed because your life is so miserable, you have no-one to love, your job is stiffling and stressing, etc., you will continue to attract those things to you. The light, the good, the happy moments that you experience will more likely occur because you have found another human that can shine their light for you and illuminate your life. Your lesson, your job, is to learn how to do this for yourself.
(First you must see and understand that this is true, then you must choose to shift your focus to see the positive things in your life, it is up to you to decide if the glass is half full or half empty ... then you can apply the concept of "mind over matter" whereby you shift your thoughts to being thankful, rather than regretful, by retraining your mind and the way you see and think about things. Mantras are an extremely effective way of accomplishing this because they are simple statements that are positively focused, they do not require you to 'think', it works something like "brain washing" but with positive results ... what you tell yourself over and over will eventually become your reality.)
It is your responsibility to learn how to increase your light, your positive thinking, your optimism, your Faith that no matter what happens you will always be okay. Until you learn how to do this, the happy and carefree moments that you experience are most likely going to come to you by way of another human who has these things to offer; this makes you dependant upon someone else for your happiness, and when that person leaves, you will lose that light and once again be caught in the darkness of despair.
All of us, whether we are positively focused or negatively focused, attract negatively charged experiences so that we can learn from them and grow in our understanding of who we are and what we are capable of accomplishing in this lifetime.
If we are positively focused, we will eventually see the lesson that we have learned, if we are negatively focused we will only see that something bad has happened and then often look for someone to blame for that experience. The fact that a lesson could have been learned escapes the understanding of the negative person, and so it will likely be repeated time and again until they finally see the lesson and learn from it. Although, the positvely focused person may also look for a scapegoat, someone to blame, they will eventually see the lesson in that experience and then realize that if they don't want it to happen again they must take steps to stay away from those situations or people; whether they realize it or not, they are opting to take responsibility for their lives and what comes into it.
Human beings are social creatures, we need to interact with others, it is how we grow, it is how we learn about ourselves, it is where we can find our joy in life. The trick is not to become dependent upon another human for your happiness. Easier said, than done.
There will always be heartaches to endure in life, whether you are a positive or negatively focused person, and the way in which we deal with those heartaches will determine the experiences that follow each heartache. It is never easy to deal with the loss of a loved one, whether they have left this life or simply left us for someone or something else, there is always a time of sadness, of allowing ourselves to feel that loss so that we can heal and go on with living our lives. We each have our own ways of dealing with such loss, how long it takes to heal from our losses varies from person to person, and the various lessons that will come our way due to that loss will make a difference on how long it takes to heal. Yet, how quickly we bounce back from any loss in our lives, is inherently dependent upon how deeply we allow ourselves to go into the pit of despair, and how long we allow ourselves to wallow in that darkness. It is our choice.
(Some may adamantly say that they are not choosing to be in such darkness, and certainly they are not choosing to "wallow" in it ... it is a painful place to be, so lost, so alone ... no-one would choose to be in such misery. Although, it is not usually a conscious choice to wallow in such darkness, it is still a choice. Perhaps one of the most unconscious decisions to be in utter darkness and misery is due to the lose of a loved one, whether that is through a physical death or a divorce/break-up. There is so much heartache, a loss of our personal identity, our entire world is thrown off-track, and certainly we did not choose this to happen.)
If we can learn to see that everything in our lives is a choice that we have made somewhere along the line (and perhaps a choice we made even before we were born) then we allow ourselves the opportunity to become empowered, and we can begin to pull ourselves out of the darkness that threatens to overtake our lives. We can then choose to be grateful for what we had, rather than being remorseful for what we no longer have. When we learn to see our negative experiences in this fashion, we begin to heal ourselves, we begin to invite positive experiences back into our lives, we open the door for others to come in and share our lives with us so that we can once again find happiness in the experience of sharing.
To become the Master of your Reality, you must choose to take back your power. You begin the process of taking back your power by choosing to be responsible for everything in your life. When you take responsibility for every experience in your life, you free yourself from the illusion that anyone or anything has power or control over you. Although this is a process which requires time, it is wholly achievable in this lifetime. It is simply up to you to make the decision ... it is your choice.