It’s funny how we can hold on to the negative events from our past and ignore all the blessings surrounding us on a daily basis. I know I’ve been guilty of this many times, especially when I was single and felt completely alone. It’s widely known that the holiday season tends to highlight those moments loneliness, pain, fear and tension. Since today is Thanksgiving, I’ve been thinking about all the things I have to be grateful for in my life, past and present.

I was watching the last few episodes of Dr. Phil and couldn’t believe my eyes. This woman has been married to a cheater and pathological liar for the past 4 years. During the course of the shows, many of her husband’s disturbing secrets were exposed. She came on the show to get him to admit to cheating, but found out she’s been living with a potential serial killer and rapist. Just when I thought I had “been there, done that”, I’m stricken with absolute amazement, disgust and heartfelt sorrow for that woman.

For some reason, that show transported me to some of the most painful romantic relationships I’ve ever experienced and I’ve gotta tell ya, I’m REALLY lucky. Even though I’ve been through some abusive situations, nobody I’ve dated has come close to what the guest on Dr. Phil has been living with. I remember feeling so sorry for myself and dwelling on situation and people that I now realize didn’t matter much in the grand scheme of things. Wow.

It’s easy to compare our lives to others’, wishing we could have what they do, but the honest truth is this: If we really knew what their life was like, we probably wouldn’t want anything that’s remotely similar. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. I’ve never been one to compare or desire someone else‘s life, but I know plenty of folks who have.

After I reflected on my own choices, relationships and events from the past I was reminded of how everything happens for a reason and everything has its divine time. I know I’m very fortunate and I’m proud of myself for getting through all those rough cycles. I truly believe all those special “little things” in life will add up, eventually rewarding us for all our hard work.

So on this Thanksgiving day I’m grateful for everything I’ve had to endure, positive and negative. I’m happy to have had so many people touch my life. I wish you all the very best and hope your holiday season is filled with blessings.

xoxo,

Cristin