LOVING SELF
Love is many things and comes in many forms in our lives. We certainly love our parents differently than we love our spouses. I often tell my clients that to tranform their lives love means letting go of our fears. Fears are negative and can only hold us back from progression. Do you recognize the fears in your life? Can you see where those fears have held back progression or growth for you?
Often when we fear we begin thinking in a negative frame of mind. We make excuses, we say negative phrases like "If only", "I can't", "what if", or even "one day I will". We put off today what we feel we can do tomorrow. Taking a look at the blocks in our lives can often open up new doors. Blocks come in many forms from blaming someone else for our lack of success, to convincing ourselves we don't have time or money to change our lives. We may even be a caretaker and we are taking care of everyone but ourselves. We stay focused on someone else to avoid dealing with the real issue, ourselves.
Love is letting go of those fears. We have to let go of negative thinking and begin believing in our own transformation. We can achieve our goals "WHEN" we begin thinking in a positive frame of mind and begin using our time wisely. Fear offers us nothing in the form of growth. We may have learned from mistakes in the past, but be careful that you are not taking the past into the future in a negative sense by allowing fears to cloud your thinking. Forgive, let go of any guilt, and BELIEVE that your future is up to YOU. You are in control of your future and your thinking every minute of the day. It's often when we are tired or frustrated that our mind goes into negative mode. We can also have triggers, past memories brought on by something we see or hear which can place us in defensive mode as well. Be careful of your thinking. Today is a new day, yesterday was an experience but we don't have to dwell on it.
Live in the reality of today. Focus on what you CAN do. LOVE yourself instead of expecting others to love you. Don't blame others for their lack of affection, or understanding. YOU can meet all of your own needs by loving unconditionally and expecting nothing in return. You can be happy just being YOU and focusing on what you can do to bring happiness into your daily life. Make a list of what is holding you back.
Your list can be simple.
1. Fears (Establish what your fears are by being honest with yourself... example fear of failure, fear of going the road alone, fear of not being accepted by someone else, etc..)
2. Money (Establish how much money you need to pursue your goals, then make a plan on how you can begin earning more money)
3. Relationship (bad marriages or relationships... again define YOUR goal in a loving way towards YOU... this isn't about them exactly. How can you solve this one? (counseling? Putting yourself first? Separating?) The key is to FIND the answer and stop making excuses of why you are not successful. A HEALTHY relationship will not stop you from being the most you can be... REMEMBER that! In a loving relationship two complete people come together to SHARE (not control) in each others lives.
Well, I think you get the idea here. Define what is holding you back, and then find solutions to how the problems can be solved in a loving way. Remember positive will bring forth positive!
God bless,
Miss Serenity Star
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