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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

They say...
lifes tribulations make you stronger....
However going through them it does not make you feel as if you will ever be stronger...
The pain that can be inflicted upon a person by a lover, a friend, a husband, or even your own child  can make us feel as if we can never not feel the hurt again.....
The loss of a lover, husband,  even close relative, child or friend can devastate us beyond repair or it feels like that for a long time..... healing takes time, and must be done at our own pace.... People who have not gone through loss cannot really grasp what it feels like to a sensitive soul. And in their feeble attempts to make us not feel the despair and in order to help us they do and say silly things, they may not mean it to be hurtful, but it can cut to the bone when done or said....
 
It is not what happens to us that counts in the long term, it is how we choose to react and there is a process that must be achieved...We all achieve and learn to process our pain in our own time...
 
To each their time....
 
Joan

Published Tuesday, May 27, 2008 9:29 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: They say... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 7:59 AM

Amen to that Joan.  I witnessed my sister's pain so evident in their faces yesterday but the grace that they bore the pain made me realize each of us do have the strength to endure if we must and God does not give us more than we can bear.  At times it does feel that way however.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: They say... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 8:21 AM

To everything there is a season. One can never truly grasp what another is feeling unless they are them. We can be empathic of course. THings can easily get thrown out of context or misunderstood. I know I have learnt to be mindfull. Two wrongs never make a right. If ever I have caused pain on another, of course I would be sad, perhaps crushed, sorry, wounded that I inflicted that or that it was that misunderstood. Presumptions are made rapidly. "Judge not" is no less a rule then any of the others. But of course we are human. Each of us in our own spiritual bodies being human and on the lessons we grow. Love is the souls journey and forgiveness is devine. Usually it begins with self. We are all equal period and each with unique gifts that we can offer to eachother. I hope today we are able to focus on the joy of the moment and or existance on this wee planet. sometimes it is hard especially when in pain. That is when the beautiful life force - be it friends, family or partner or even the family pet remind us how important we are to the big picture! And the new season begins......We really owe it to eachother to lead with love - no strings, just love. Not even judging if we can help it....

Sharlyne

# re: They say... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 8:27 AM

We can all make judgements and sometimes that is done mindlessly. I for one saw a show last night that was about the men and women who have died in the service of their country. Some of them were not even citizens such as an Irish citizen with a green card serving in the army who was found shot in the head at the base she was serving on, her murder has not been solved but it may have been because of her sexual preferences. Apparently somebody asked and somebody told rather than the don't ask and don't tell policy...her name was Ciara Durkin...
The number of 19 year olds that were killed in action and or stupid accidents, friendly fire ( how the HELL can they call it friendly??) etc... was heartbreaking....
I do not agree with the war but have the utomst respect for ANYone who serves their country...
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: They say... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 8:56 AM

Amen - me either. It kills me - but I also respect those who choose this career - risk....Have you seen From Lions to Lambs (may have name wrong....with Redford, Streep and Cruise? Interesting and thought provoking....
I hope exposure happens on the "bullying tactic" for Ciara does not go unnoticed by the public. Bullying and racisim and or intolerance are unacceptable! EVER - Thanks for making me aware - To each their own is a perfect way to express it. What and how people choose to live thier lives is no ones business but their own ever.

Sharlyne

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