Control.............
power and fear go hand in hand in hand......
When we hand our power over to others like a reader, we are not taking responsibility for our own choices and living in denial because we want to blame everyone else for our own failures.
How can we blame a reader for a person not calling us when it came up in a reading but we drove by his/her house ten times and got caught? How can we blame that same reader for a prediction not manifesting when we or someone we are friends with told lies about the person we want to control on line and they knew it was us? We must remember that we are not PRE-determined but we are SELF-determined, nothing is written in stone and our INTENTION and our behavior towards others not to mention our FOCUS on people and situations does affect outcomes.
When we *fear* we attempt to control situations and people which creates a vacuum of need which can be hard to be around for others.... We try to manipulate others because we fear that the relationship will end, we fear we will lose them.... if we are in that much fear, we do not truly have the other person....
My favourite quote in a book called * Calling in the One* by Katherine Woodward Thomas says * Some people do not have relationships, they take hostages* And there is truth in that statement.....
Release the hostages :-)
Joan