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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

Blogs are like......

opinions and let's face it everyone has one, they are entitled to them and regardless of whether we consider ourselves spiritual or not, regardless of what our abilities are we should not stand in judgement of another.

We cannot and should not call names of anyone else simply because we do not agree with their opinions, some people lack the bedside manner when they deliver news no matter what their skills are in reading a situation or person.

When we write and publish our blogs they are read by and commented upon by others who may not share the opinions we have, but I defend their right to do so....

I get calls all the time where callers tell me that I may have come up with a detail or prediction that another reader does not agree with and my response is usually that they got what they got and I get what I get, I cannot at this point say who is wrong or right, I can only tell you what I get when I read for you. I am in NO position to speak about the reading another gave the caller, nor will I comment on it even if I do not agree with it.

Same with blogs.......if we have an opinion and others do not share it, moaning about comments made on your blog only reflects on you, the comments that people make, reflect the person themselves....... and when we are REACTIVE rather than responding, it can and may make us look stupid........

Just a little memorial day thought :-)

joan

Published Sunday, May 25, 2008 2:41 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 11:56 AM

Hugs to you!!! I apreciate your intelligent thought and deep wisdom!! Blessings

Sharlyne

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 12:11 PM

yes Joan, and if you are publically blogging, are you not asking for comments anyways? lol.

I have learned a lot on these blogs. Mostly I just don't know very much. I do enjoy the challenge of thought though. A few people have given me a lot more to think about or add into my little filing cabinet head.

Lady Hope

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 12:13 PM

Dear Joan:

Bravo and well said.  When we become judgmental and try to control what others say or do it diminishes us.  Robert Louis Stevenson said it best!

Robert Louis Stevenson:
There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it behooves all of us not to talk about the rest of us.

I love that quote from Stevenson and it really puts things into perspective.  We are all in this together so don't rain on another's parade without expecting a thorough splashing yourself!

Great wisdom Joan and I really thank you for sharing it with us.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 12:14 PM

You are asking for comments if you blog unless you disable the comments on any blog written.
And yes many blogs here have stretched me beyond my comfott zones and given me plenty of food for thought, sometimes I think, I do not think I could ever call that person and sometimes I think, sheesh I never thought of it that way and hey many might have the same thoughts about my blogs :-)
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 12:29 PM

oh - inspite of the tragic fact of the sorrow, I am laughing at the truth. So true also that we are one. Love is the soul purpose - I really like that quote from stevenson....hmm. Anyway, sorry - but a huge hug again and thanks. Never - NEVER would I try to minimalize anothers truth. I know how challenging and how painful.

Sharlyne

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 1:02 PM

Truth is subjective, and sometimes objective although not always so. What is my truth, may not be truth for others, it is just how it is. How I see and experience things is all about who I am as a person, and how others see and eperience things is all about who they are and while we may hear, see or experience things that are the same we may not feel the same about it.
joan.

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 1:06 PM

exactly. Once it came to me that history is nothing but fiction from the authors point of view. Ten people can see the exact event and all have a diferent version.

Sharlyne

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 3:17 PM

I have read this post with great thought. Yes, when we post something it is opening ourselves up to all types of comments.  I have learned the hard way to bypass those wherein I might leave a comment that may appear to be cruel, without regard to the personal feelings of another person ie particularly where it goes for the 'jugular' so to speak - I would not intentionally do this anyway but sometimes things 'get to us'.  I now walk away to think it over.  Consequenses, Karma, etc.  

The old saying "If you have nothing good to say - say nothing at all"  This is what I am attempting on the boards now.  There are so man "non-constructive" "cruel" comments that come may come up and I have made a vow to say nothing in this case.  

We sometimes feel a of 'anonymity' as we are simply 'talking' with our fingers on a keyboard (seemingly inpersonal) but it's not. You might as well be in a face to face group setting 'saying' these words.  No difference. It's like the sting of negative feedback on from a caller.  VERY personal..

I think we should all be courteous and say what we feel in a kind way or 'bypass' it.

Ancestral Wisdom

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 5:23 PM

Being a reader one has sometimes to deliver news that may not be what the person who called wants to hear and yet that can be helped when the news is delivered in a kind manner. I always tell my children that one has to consider the feelings of the person they are going to talk to, and that is most important...kindness helps the message get across...
I have seen comments on the spelling etc which were just mean and there is no need for them...
But when one writes a blog and responses are posted I feel that some are taken the wrong way so one should read and re-read before making judgements on what might have been meant..
joan

Druidsglentarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 5:50 PM

This is very nice work and smart. Thank you for sharing

Ancestor of Light

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 6:18 PM

It is simply not our place to ram the lessons of others down their throat simply because we think it is THEIR lesson, when someone bothers us a lot is is normally more about ourselves than the person who has us hot under the collar, and that is more of a lesson and those are the ones that we have to take notice of. One can bring the horse to water but you cannot make it drink.

Freedom of speech is part of the constitution....and we are supposedly guaranteed it, however the blog police would have it another way :-) It would appear comments are only acceptable when they agree with them... We cannot control what or how others see us or what their opinions are about what we write in our blogs.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Sunday, May 25, 2008 11:05 PM

wow, I am starting to feel that someone is being targeted by your blogs. I am unsure what is going on but by stating "its not our place to ram the lessons of others"?  Sounds exactly like what you are trying to do with several blogs along the same lines..shame on you.



Lady Hope

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Monday, May 26, 2008 6:24 AM

I think that you have taken what I intended to say that wrong way. That happens a lot on these blogs. There is no target, never was and never will be, it is not my place, and if you took it that way, that was your choice. And I will tell you straight that IF I had ANYTHING to say to ANYBODY, I can and will and always have directed to the person concerned, and not danced around the subject.
We all see and perceive things the way we choose to. If you choose to take what I wrote about blogs being like opinions and every one has one and that opinion or a comment can be taken the wrong way, not to mention that one cannot always know the *intention* of the blog writer and or comments of the responses you have proven the point I was trying to make in writing those blogs. And you judged my intention the wrong way. There is no shame in that and there was no ramming of my opinions down anyones throats, just expressing an opinion that anyone is free to comment upon... :-)
have a nice day
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Monday, May 26, 2008 7:28 AM

The way I interpret this blog is for all of us to be PROACTIVE not REACTIVE to others opinions and actions. Good Post!
Thanks for sharing.
Mia

Whispers Of Hope

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Monday, May 26, 2008 7:51 AM

What I was trying to say in the blog was that we all have opinions, and we may not agree with the opinions of others but we have no control over what others think and how they express themselves. And we should not take comments on our blog personally :-)
Thanks Mia for your comment
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Monday, May 26, 2008 5:20 PM

"Laughing at the Truth?"  Sorry about my above grammar lack.

Ancestral Wisdom

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 4:58 AM

no apologies necessary, I do not find it necessary to correct people for their spelling, grammar etc on the blogs, even when some refer to the content calling it stupid etc, or telling people they are not in the light because they do not agree with your blogs, and or comments and I do not think that it is the place of anyone to do so. Now if that is all some have to comment upon then that only shows their lack of charachter :-) There is no need for anyone to stoop to such levels. :-)
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 11:11 AM

Thank you for that tidbit of wisdom.  

Ancestral Wisdom

# re: Blogs are like...... @ Tuesday, May 27, 2008 11:41 AM

I may not agree with what some people have to say and yet I defend to the last their right to say it. I know someone said that but I cannot attribute it to the correct person because I do not remember who it was :-)
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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