What I have enjoyed most about being an empath is that I have begun to understand some of the human condition. I used to distrust people's motives , so it was easier to fall into seclusion that way.  Many people do this..they will rather isolate themselves from the partner or friend if presented a problem that hurts them.

 Why do we  pull away when something is going wrong? Once again, apart from grief issues, we are still perceiving the relationship on a bias. This comes from deeply rooted family issues or complex personality traits. As we usually perceive relationships on a bias, the person expects that the person who hurts them is fulfilling that bias or in other words ‘ they take it to heart’.

 I have found that we all have similar issues, similar fears, and the same strange behaviours that seem to make us feel like we are unique or alone in a world of dissimilar personalities. This type of isolation can make for many relationship issues and problems in our world.

 What I have found though, is opening up to empathy is healing in terms of being able to see the child in people. Most people are good….most have good sides, and I tend to see the better side in people. The only difference in being able to make good choices with people is this:

Good people and bad people have long term and short term goals. Maybe the person who may may not allow for the path in a relationship is someone with a short-term goal with you…as opposed to the person who may consider you, but have a long-term plan.

 So to me, a friend I would choose would be someone who is right now in his or her life path both loving and kind and motivated to change themselves as circumstances change.

 I will feel caution towards people who are loving and kind but unmotivated for change - my reasoning behind that is they can sometimes change their mind at the drop of a hat and thus unknowingly cause heartache.

 The world is made up of a patchwork of people who want love. Even in the energy of a person who has done bad things, I can pick up the energy of a child, still loving and sweet.

 I tend to feel now a much bigger peace with world issues, and complete strangers delight me. I have an ease in my way with people, because I understand and feel they have the same issues as I do. I do not feel isolated in a sea of feelings, I can connect with and draw people's energy, and never feel alone. I now have even more compassion for suffering because I have experienced it, and I understand now what drives others to behave how they do under the same stresses.

I  can be kind to, but I don’t have to choose to be with any person who does not hold to or understand their path.  If on any occasion, that person develops a self awareness and a plan and then I would welcome them into my life.

 A grounded empath learns about their boundaries, as they are very important in for manoeuvring the empath through relationships.

 We are all one. Isn’t that wonderful?

Copyright 2007 Carmen Miro