Ah yes!!!!  The beginnings of love...how wonderful!!  You're enthralled with him/her. EVERYTHING they do is a revelation.  You find you have no time for your friends and family because THEY are the Sun and Moon….the Alpha and Omega….. You change your eating habits because they don’t particularly like what you do….you change the side of the bed you sleep on because that’s their favorite side of the bed….you cater to their every little whim and desire. 

Then, what seems to be out of the blue, they drop you like yesterday’s news.  You’re wondering, questioning what it is you did wrong to be treated like that??? You e-mail, call, text, do everything you can to get an answer out of them …to make rhyme and reason out of this.  You beg and plead with them to come back. They either don’t respond, tell you to step –off, or worse, call the Police and accuse you of stalking and harassing them.  You ask yourself over and over.....Now what do I do?

Sound exactly like you when you and your lover have broken things off?  Too many times in a relationship we immerse ourselves in that relationship and make it the Center of our World.  We become an extension of that other person and lose ourselves...our true selves.  We forget who we really are. Our goal is to please that person so much, they never want to leave.  But yet, they do. What do I do now?

Well, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.  Making sure you don't commit the same errors on your next relationship that you've done in your past ones.

C'mon, there are hundreds of talk show hosts that discuss this topic.......thousands of books, and millions of magazine articles that tell you the exact same thing I'm telling you now.  HELLO???

DO YOU UNDERSTAND THE WORDS THAT ARE COMING OUT OF MY MOUTH????

Stop what you're doing and fix it.....cause honey, it ain't working!

STOP making the person and the relationship the reason for your very existence!

START including yourself in the relationship so that they know you're just as important as they are!

KEEP doing the things that make you feel good too! 

 

STOP cutting off your friends when you meet a new man!

START the routine back again where you and your friends meet weekly, bi-weekly for get-togethers ...there's still a World out there....stay in it!

KEEP your friends.  They're the ones that'll support you if you let them!

 

The moment you STOP repeating the same mistakes, START stepping out the of box of comfort that got you into every previous bad relationship and KEEP focused on YOU (your wants, desires, needs, etc) that’s when the RIGHT relationship comes along.

And remember…..you don’t NEED someone in your life….you WANT someone in your life who ENHANCES who you are, not COMPLETES or DICTATES who you are.

Enjoy your day!

Cheryl