Love is a decision, a decision to expand and not contract, to treat others as you would like to be treated, to not mislead or deliberately hurt others. Love is not sex and is not games. It is honest, generous and pure. It exposes itself in face of a risk of being rejected. It does not enable hypocracy. Love communicates.

Love would be responsible enough, and would love enough, to offer closure to someone if feelings and desires changed instead of playing games with peoples feelings or through provoking a break-up or disappearing or being unfaithful. If a lover was unsure what s/he wanted, with love they could be open and honest allowing the other to make a decision based on what the lover was open, honest and ready for. Love is also honest enough to ask what someone else wants or needs and express what they want or need without trying to prevent being abandoned, for those who cling but never seek closure or answers then holding resentments or hurts for expectations that were based in fantasy because they never opened communication enough to test if they were real.

A true player cares only for himself and his feelings and avoids honesty and confrontation. A player is disloyal, deceiving, or pulls a disappear act not wanting to handle someone elses questions hurt or confrontation.

If you care, be bold with it. If you don't, let the person know directly and let them move on.

A true player runs from responsibility in love... whether it's due to fear, self-sabotage or that they are simply moving on to the next conquest or rush... 

Lastly, love doesnt offer excuses after the fact (not calling, missing a date, disappearing acts etc), love cares enough to be involved enough to let others know what's going on with them.

Casanovas/ Romance Addicts

Some casanovas and romance addicts actually do think they are falling inlove and are not typical players with deliberate intentions to play games or deceive. They suffer from ambivalent love addictions in which they crave intimacy and closeness but true intimacy is to threatening to them so they seek to run away from it, be it unconsciously or consciously.

Casanovas can actually crave a love and commitment that is lasting even though they feel at odds at why they cannot sustain a bond (or have a bond they can't remain faithful to), or can have insecurities or act out to sabotage a commitment as soon as they ask for it. The pattern is they usually fall in love really quickly and to come on very strong and romantic, who are looking for soulmate, but with inability to maintain a relationship without pushing their partner away or running away from the relationship through fantasy, romance, sex and infidelity. 

Casanovas may have had a string of affairs that never manifest into something more or short marriages or marriages where there is a wife who is no longer made love to anymore in favor of outside fantasies, sexual encounters and affairs. What Casanovas do not understand is that they are seeking the high and the rush of falling inlove and not a true intimacy, true caring or a lasting bond. They often move from one love to the next and have a line up of potential interests. You can identify them by being careful of those who can be extremely charming and affectionate but who may avoid true intimacy (getting to know someone deeply and letting others get to know them other than on a romantic level). There is a lot of thrill in the romantic crush phase of a relationship or the feeling of being crushed on by another and once the crush is over or realities and demands of a relationship set in, escape or distance is desired or a new crush presents itself and they can leave one relationship behind to pursue something new.