Romance Addicts are one particular kind of Love Addict. They are hard to bond with like most ambivalent love addicts (the other kinds are torchbearers, seductive withholders and saboteurs). The goal of relationships is to seek some sense of closeness and intimacy while avoiding true bonding because bonding can lead to getting hurt and cause pain or disappointment or just plain boredom.

How do you know if you are a romance addict or dating one?

The romance addict loves the rush of falling inlove, which often happens very quickly. They can crave adventure and the thrill of conquest. It is about fantasy and finding someone who can act out their fantasies with them, but the focus is on romance instead of a real, true and solid relationship which involves growth, communication, real life, real needs and bonding. They usually have brief affairs because not all relationships can be permanently romantic, and they tend to lose interest when the romance wears off and becomes more about real love. To them, the lack of passion can feel dull and they may get depressed, seek a way out of the relationship, think they are not inlove anymore or look towards a new love interest who can provide them romance and a fresh rush.

Romance addicts usually go from one relationship to another to get their "fix". They can also carry on more than one relationship at a time and feel "inlove" with more than one person at a time. Some can have a back door relationship ready for if a main one collapses, which their relationships usually do. Others may marry but carry on multiple elicit affairs to get their fix. They have a hard time being alone and being bored and when the infatuation wears off with any interest of present and the honeymoon phase is over, or the relationship becoms too real, the romance addict gets bored and moves on to a new infatuation. They tend to feel that life feels empty without romance or someone to romance and may be succeptible to depression or other psychosomatic illness if they start feeling out of control.

Romance addicts have a hard time tolerating real basic needs (in themselves and in their love interests), it is part of avoiding bonding. They can seem to both at the same time love drama and create it while not liking it and avoiding the consequences of the drama they stir up (asking the love interest to not have deeper needs or to look to deeply to them for accepting responsibility)

Romance addicts can be confused with sex addicts but are not the same. Romance addicts can concurrently suffer from sex addictions but not always. The problem is that romance addicts can use sex to feel some sense of bonding, romance, lust, passion and intimacy while actually avoiding deeper bonding and connecting to someone. Romance addicts can also feel dependent on pleasing their partner sexually (to keep up the high level of passion and romantic lust). They may have sex even if they dont want to to keep the lust, infatuation and element of romance high in the relationship, to avoid disappointing their partner, and also. again, to avoid deeper bonding which causes them anxiety.

Consequences can result if romance addict does not seek help and gets sick from their disease, through have too many partners, getting depressed or being subjected to sexual diseases or other consequences of their addiction. Families can be destroyed (especially when the romance addict pursues married people or is married), reputations ruined, sense of frustration and despondency can set in and other people other than the addict can get hurt.