Sometimes the only way out is through when it comes to being addicted to a relationship that doesnt serve our wants and needs. Sometimes there are things to learn and this can be part of God's plan too. It's ok to be gentle with this.

Sometimes leaving someone does not solve the problem we had in attracting them into our lives and if we leave without getting the closure and healing we needed in ourself, we merely end up attracting the same issue or personality again in someone new.

Sometimes we just have to change something, especially if we're working so hard trying to have our needs cared for, listened to or respected. It's ok to let go a little with this. It's ok to cry, to feel, to see the other as they are now and all the hurt... and then see ourself and look within. It's important to be tender with ourselves in this and to separate the two (your partners behavior towards you and you). We are not responsible for someone elses feelings or behavior, it's not about our worth and it's not about who we are. Find out where the pattern begins and with who and what other relationship (in a parent or other) and start the healing of the hurt and brokeness here.

It is exhausting and makes no sense to continually try to assert boundaries which are not respected and which cannot be enforced effectively. After a point it comes time to stop the force and trying to enforce. Allow time and space to recharge before planning a next move. If something is keeping us hooked, we can start by just acknowledging the addiction and craving and deciding not to get lost in it. It is so much better than frustrating ourselves with what we can't change in the person we love. Try shifting the focus a little. Try to move attention away from looking at the other, towards looking inside. Change the expectation /patterns... change expecting someone to be something they don't want to be. Resign all this to something higher. It is not our job to fix or heal another person or situation out of our control. But it is our job to work on ourselves, our role, who we want to be...

While surrending in the moment to the power of what in regarding a relationship with another, feel yourself getting stronger and more centered. Know that you can make the right decision for you when you feel ready with whatever shifts that come ... and remember to forgive yourself and your partner for being human. Sometimes shifting ourselves shifts the relationship, ourself or our partner in a new direction... and any movement is a blessing when a pattern is stuck.

See what is, but remember that we don't have to fight it so much. Let go of arguing but also release trying to avoid/control someones reactions by caving in too much... all of this is denial. Love yourself. Spend time with yourself. Pamper yourself...Give yourself what the other can't. Maybe something shifts and you lose what you were addicted to in the relationship. Maybe you find you. Maybe you find the real other (not the person you want to construct) and find you still want to be with them. But, allow yourself to become real with both who you are and who the other person really is in the NOW. Make an intention to love someone NOW even if its it's the intention falling inlove with YOU. The best way to find someone to love you how you need and want is through falling inlove with yourself first and giving to yourself all of these needs and wants. Free yourself this way. Free others to be who they are too. Then you can really find YOU and your own lead in this dance of two ... now you do so aware and responsible and respecting others individuality as you would like yours to be respected too... So, dance the dance awarely... make it fun and don't forget to PLAY!