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When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading

It is common in this profession to get the age-old question, "when will I meet 'the one'", or "when will he/she be back?", or "can you tell when my next relationship will be?".   Then as we tune into the situation, either using a tool or not, 'the one' does not show up!

As I try to keep my readings to project no more than 6 months out, often times 'the one' does not appear in the reading! Or perhaps the reading reveals very little in the area of romance/relationships but shows other things.   How many readers and clients have this happen?

Does this mean that the reader is not accurate in picking up the situation? No, not at all. In many cases 'the one' isn't just around the corner or the 'past lover' will not be back around in a timely manner. Most often than not, the client has work to do in order to prepare and open themselves up to the possibilities of romance, love, and relationships.

For example, a client calls me and wants to know when she will meet 'the one'... as the reading unfolds it is revealed that said client's life currently revolves around work & home--period! No socialization, no outside activities, very little friendships outside the occassional lunch shared with a co-worker. Now I am a true believer in divine intervention, but let's be real, unless one is actively living life and out & around, heartmates and/or dates do not suddenly appear on our doorstep!

For the clients that request these type of readings and do not get the results they long for; look around...

Is there something you should be doing to change the course of events?   Look inward--is there unresolved issues that may be blocking you from meeting healthy partners? Are you truly involved in living life and open for what the universe brings to you?

For the advisors who have those readings when 'the one' is no where in sight; be truthful with the client and be prepared to look and see what the client can do to change the situation.

Remember folks, nothing is carved in stone and we are here to help enlighten and bring insight into your lives--it is up to you to live them! :)

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Have a wonderfully blessed today!

Melody "Lil Mel"

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Advisor
Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching

Published Thursday, May 22, 2008 8:43 AM by Advisor Lil Mel

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# re: When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading @ Thursday, May 22, 2008 8:45 AM

Dear Mel:

This is a really insightful blog. I agree with you so much for I get this question often also and sometime I have to tell the client that I do not see anyone new at this time. It usually is so hard for them to understand especially when they meet others all the time. If they ask will I meet someone then the answer may be different but when they ask will He or She be the one I spend my life with it is much harder.

Thank you for another wonderful blog.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading @ Thursday, May 22, 2008 9:32 AM

It is a good blog. Often, these periods are speaking loudly that the client needs to reach outside what they are normally doing..change is the key. And you are so right, you will ask what kind of social activities they are involved with..and they are not! Ive done the same and now I wonder did I expect to meet him in my living room? lol

One reading a great gal asked me if this guy she encountered at work was the one? I felt no interaction and hated stated that. I said, I don't feel you communicate very much and he doesn't know you at all. Well turns out she had never spoke to him once!!

Lady Hope

# re: When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading @ Thursday, May 22, 2008 10:56 AM

Our society has become one that is so attuned to instantaneous gratification....fast food, drive-up services, instant money, etc. People see what they want and expect to get it without doing the work. Bottom line, there is no getting around doing the work that needs to be done. One way or another, there are lessons to be learned. Once I decided to do the work to build a firm foundation, then things started falling into place. But I needed that good, solid foundation first. I'm lucky to have found a very astute and intelligent person to have pointed that out to me.

Amy6933

# re: When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading @ Thursday, May 22, 2008 5:15 PM

Not only do you have the issue of instant gratification, but with the advent of the internet and the pace of most peoples lives these days, we've become incredibly isolated from one another. I see time and time again people who just don't know how to both communicate /or comprimise with others...and websites like e-harmony are really not doing anything to help that issue. How do you tell someone that they need to remove themselves from their comfort zones, go out meet people and take a chance at either finding the right one or getting hurt? =)

dionne marie78

# re: When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading @ Thursday, May 22, 2008 7:45 PM

I agree with everyone here! And thanks, Mel, for this great post. I had to leave my comfort zone to finally break out of my little shell. I drove from Nashville out to northern California, hoping for a new start. I am staying in my cousin's guest house in a very remote area. For the last 2 months here I have been popping in to the local "hardware" store. It is about the only place to buy anything here. Well, the other day I really took a look at one of the guys behind the counter. Something hit me like a bolt of lightning. WOW. I am excited about getting to know this man, and the road that may lay in store for the two of us. I have not been this happy in a great many years. Yes, I had to take a huge leap, but Spirit is telling me that I made the right choice!

Kelly

# re: When 'the one' doesn't show up in a reading @ Monday, May 26, 2008 8:06 AM

Thanks for all the wonderful comments and insight! It's so true that in order to expand our horizons or change things in our life we must first be open to change!

Love may be 'just around the corner' or possibly it may be miles away. However if we do not open ourselves up to opportunities we will never know!

I look forward to hearing more input from clients and advisors alike on this subject.

Have a wonderful Memorial Day!

Melody "Lil Mel"

Advisor Lil Mel

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