Let's Just Kiss & Say Goodbye...
Two people I care about very much are splitting up.
It's so very, very sad.
There isn't any earth shattering reason why. He isn't a monster, and nor is she. They're just two very decent, kind people who simply got to the end of their relationship.
They want very different things out of life now. After years of coasting along secretly hoping it would get better, I think they finally realized that it wasn't going to. If anything, it was starting to get a lot worse.
They are just not compatible any more. They've decided to end their relationship whilst they are still on friendly terms.
I've given them a lot of thought over the last few days. I give relationships in general a lot of thought! What came to me this morning was this.
We owe it to ourselves, our partners and our children (if we have any!) to stay in touch with who we are and what we want at all times. We have to be prepared to work at our happiness not just in our relationships but in our lives generally. It's everyone's responsibilty to speak up when things aren't ok. It's not enough to just be in a relationship - we have to feed it, challenge it and keep it alive and growing.
It's so much easier sometimes to do nothing - to drift. To simply coast along because it's too hard and takes too much energy to do anything else.
In relationship terms that's disastrous. Nothing kills intimacy more than lack of attention and apathy. Relationships need nurturing and prioritizing on a regular basis - no matter how busy, tired or pre-occupied we are with life.
I read somewhere recently that the average couple spends about three minutes a day in conversation with each other. That's barely enough time to say change the channel. It's definitely not enough to maintain a meaningful, loving connection.
I will be available to take your calls here on Keen throughout the weekend. If I am on a break or on another call please place a callback to ensure we connect. With the summer season in full swing my schedule on Keen will vary from day to day as I make time for myself and my family--as we all should do! I will try to log on for a period of time each day and constantly check for callbacks! Have a wonderful funfilled weekend!
Blessings,
Melody "Lil Mel"
Life Coach, Author, & Professional Advisor
Let Your Heart Heal Life Coaching