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Is Your Relationship a Priority?

Where in the priority queue is your relationship?

If you are like most, you’ll say it’s your top priority. But is it really?

Let’s face it, everyone gets a little complacent towards their partners after a while, and putting them first often gets sidelined in favor of the more mundane things in life.

Here’s an example of that. Faced with the following, which would you choose?

1.    Getting organized before your favorite show on TV.
2.    Reading the kids a story
3.    Sharing a drink and listening to how his/her day went.

For most couples, it’s seldom number 3. Somehow that seems like the least important – something that can be put off till another day.

The truth is, the other things can wait, checking in and connecting with each other can’t. Relationships need to be nurtured and maintained regularly. The dishes will still be there later, and you do your kids a favor if you keep your relationship strong.

Nothing is more important than grabbing that time when it presents itself. When couples say, ‘We work at our relationship’, that’s what they mean. That make it their priority, they put each other above everything else. 

Lack of attention is a leading cause of relationship crises. People just stop making time for each other, and then wonder why the intimacy and closeness wanes.

I hear from people all the time whose relationship is in serious trouble through years of neglect. It’s not that there’s been major issues or abuse, it’s just that those feelings aren’t there any more.

If you are in a relationship, don’t let that happen. Pay attention now – every day. Lots of little things constantly adds up to a whole lot over the years. You know what they say, an ounce of prevention.

 

 

Melody “Lil Mel”

 

Melody "Lil Mel" McGowan
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Published Friday, May 09, 2008 7:53 AM by Advisor Lil Mel

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# re: Is Your Relationship a Priority? @ Friday, May 09, 2008 6:29 AM

Dear Mel:

You are so correct and I remember only too well putting off our relationship when the kids were all in school.  It seemed we never got enough time in the day to really see each other.  The kids always took center stage when we were home.  It almost cost us our marriage one year and we woke up to the fact that we simply were missing each other.  You have to make time for each other and I always advise couples take the time to go away together without the kids etc.  It is vital for your marriage to survive.  Great post as usual Mel!  Blessings to you this day.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: Is Your Relationship a Priority? @ Saturday, May 10, 2008 6:34 AM

Rosie,

Glad to hear that you were blessed enough to recognize what was happening in your relationship and take steps to turn it around.  So often people just throw in the towel or wait until it is too late to repair.

By constantly attending to our relationships; properly maintaining them, watch for warning signs, and being commitmment enough to make necessary adjustments, many divorce or relationship counselor would be out of business! :)

Thanks for commenting, as always, I love hearing from you!

Melody "Lil Mel"

Advisor Lil Mel

# re: Is Your Relationship a Priority? @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 12:29 PM

your blog was lovely but what if you put the energy into the relationship but your partner has no interest? Both should make an effort, if not then you are wasting your time and energy.

Ellen

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