Doing the Relationship Dance
I really enjoy working with clients on their relationships. People I know find that hard to understand. They think it must be difficult work dealing with people's relationship issues. I don't see it that way at all.
Actually, I find it positive, challenging and rewarding. That's because it isn't actually about me - about what I think, what I believe or even what I suggest. It's always about the client I am working with - what they think, what they want. Often they simply don't know. I help them find out. I help them realize what they want and need from their relationship and from their life. That isn't negative or draining - it's empowering, interesting and fulfilling.
Sometimes people haven't ever thought about their own truth at all. They haven't ever considered what they want out of life or out of a relationship. Sure, they've given loads of thought to whatever issue or situation they may be dealing with. Rarely though have they considered what their ultimate objectives are - what it is they really, deep down want out of life.
It's something worth thinking about. That's because the more you know what it is you want and what your life needs to be about, the more connected you are with what needs to happen in your relationship for you to be happy.
When you focus on your behavior and on freely giving, communicating and connecting, something amazing happens.
The relationship changes - the interaction changes - and your partner responds accordingly.
Relationships are like a dance. People spend so much time trying to change their partner's steps, and blaming them for treading on their toes. When they focus on changing their own steps, the dance changes anyway.
Happy people create happy relationships. Know what makes you happy and align your relationship with that truth. That's all any of us can do. Trying to change someone else or live their idea of happiness means you'll end up unfulfilled and unhappy. No one wants that, do they?
I am available to assist you in finding your own truth and aligning your relationship with that truth...give me a call!
Blessings,
Melody "Lil Mel"